QUOTE (Madame Protart @ 26/01/2013, 10:10 AM)
Sorry OP but he just sounds like a big jerk to me. I've known adults with those disorders and they were nothing like that. Perhaps because they received help when they were younger. But I don't see anything you have listed there that could be attributed to ADHD, or ASD. Sure some things could fit, but the worse part of his behaviour just sounds like general d***head behaviour.
My first impression, OP, when I read your list was the same as Hennigo's & misty85's impressions (we are all living with ADHD in our own families): certainly enough potential "red flags" to warrant concern.
Of course, none of us here is qualified to dx anything, but based on what you've shared, I can see why you think ADHD and related issues are worth exploring.
Common symptoms checklisthttp://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/621.html
(In addition to the link that Henndigo provides, ADDitude magazine online, where I pulled the above article, has some great resources -- lots of articles & links related to adult ADHD & relationships with a partner with ADHD).
Do you think your husband would be receptive if you shared your concerns and insist that he seek some professional support? What are you prepared to do if he says "No?"
I hope you are able to convince your husband to seek some help. I also with Madame Protart's suggestion that you might want to consider professional support for yourself.
Talking to his/your GP would be a good place to start. If you are willing to say where you are located (general area), perhaps some EBers who have adult ADHD or a partner with ADHD could recommend particularly effective professionals.
Good luck. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate. I hope everything works out for the best for your entire family.
This post has been edited by baddmammajamma: 26/01/2013, 12:39 PM