[strawberrypie7]

I have a gorgeous 1 year old DD and since I became pregnant with her we have felt one would be the perfect number for us. Over the last year this feeling has just firmed up even more and we really feel that we are done with one. We keep getting told we will change our mind and sure, there is a chance this could happen but not likely really.

So I am wondering if anyone felt done after one child- felt that their family was complete and there was no desire to have anymore?

[Jekaho]

Completely and utterly done at one. Not while I was pregnant (then it was still 2 or 3 ), but pretty much straight away after he arrived I knew I only wanted one. (not because of the birth or anything)

I have ZERO desire to have more. Now that he is 4yo people ask less often about us having another one.

[sandy_1985]

DS was born in '09 and I did feel done. That's it...just one.
Lately I've been thinking otherwise.

[strawberrypie7]

thanks for the replies
I completely understand the zero desire for one more and glad others have felt it as no one I speak to gets it!

[silverstreak]

I felt done when I was pregnant and I still feel done, but as DH would like one more, I'm going to see how I feel over the next year or two. At the moment I have a six month old and although he's fantastic, I can't think of anything worse than another baby at the moment! We'll see if I change my mind!

[silverwattle]

We both knew straight away we were done after 1. That was 10 years ago. Never once did I think I wanted more.

[CharliMarley]

I think only one child has a lot to deal with. There is nobody else to play with (or fight with) and if Mum and Dad are arguing, there is nobody to be with and feel comforted. When Mum and Dad get old, then this one child has all the worry of looking after the parents and finding nursing homes etc. They really need a sibling to help with the stress.

[BetteBoop]

OP, two women in my Mother's Group are having only child by choice. One had a difficult birth and the other said she simply didn't want another.

Actually we had a third who said the same thing, but she's now 7 months pregnant!

I think only one child has a lot to deal with. There is nobody else to play with (or fight with) and if Mum and Dad are arguing, there is nobody to be with and feel comforted. When Mum and Dad get old, then this one child has all the worry of looking after the parents and finding nursing homes etc. They really need a sibling to help with the stress.

How arrogant to come into this thread to tell OP what she must do with her womb.

And your claims are bullsh*t too. I'm an only and I didn't need a sibling as a child and nor do I as an adult.

Maybe you think fighting in front of your kids is okay because they have each other, but I don't. If your fighting scares and upsets your children, you are possibly traumatising them. No amount of siblings will make that better.

[strawberrypie7]

I think only one child has a lot to deal with. There is nobody else to play with (or fight with) and if Mum and Dad are arguing, there is nobody to be with and feel comforted. When Mum and Dad get old, then this one child has all the worry of looking after the parents and finding nursing homes etc. They really need a sibling to help with the stress.

My DD has cousins close in age she sees all the time. I know plenty of families where only one child has been left with organising everything when parents are elderly so this is a moot point for me. From my POV everything you have listed is either able to be countered with planning and effort or has no guarantee of working out a certain way with 2 plus children.

[Chedasha]

I think only one child has a lot to deal with. There is nobody else to play with (or fight with) and if Mum and Dad are arguing, there is nobody to be with and feel comforted. When Mum and Dad get old, then this one child has all the worry of looking after the parents and finding nursing homes etc. They really need a sibling to help with the stress.

Bollocks.

I have one and will only have one. I am sure she will thrive. Plus bonus no dad for me mum to fight with either lol.

A sibling might add to the stress its unknown isn't it.