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Does this sound like a friendship over?

zande View Member Profile	29/01/2013, 10:54 AM Post #1
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bonnybabe View Member Profile	29/01/2013, 10:59 AM Post #2
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I would ask them over for a date about a month away, see if they are busy, or if they come. If they don't come, or wait to see if they have better plans, then yep she is a fair weather friend and you have to decide if you are happy enough as it is, or if you just stop putting yourself out and just meet up when it suits the both of you.

Ianthe View Member Profile	29/01/2013, 10:59 AM Post #3
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The first part about the busy life that I can understand. But when I got to the part about your DH doing that work for them I was shocked. Maybe she has a huge social circle so she can use people for their different skills?

Jigsy 0308 View Member Profile	29/01/2013, 11:02 AM Post #4
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I have a similar situation. My advice - let it go. I was the one doing all the inviting and running around etc. Then one day recently I had a light bulb moment and realised all she was doing was taking from me constantly. It seems you value the friendship more than she does.

MakeLoveNotBacon View Member Profile	29/01/2013, 11:02 AM Post #5
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The last bit makes them sound like big fat users. Who does that? Rude, rude, rude. Sorry OP.

Sunnycat View Member Profile	29/01/2013, 11:03 AM Post #6
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It doesn't sound great. Especially if she never suggests a convenient time to catch up. Kind of sound like a bunch of users.

~sydblue~ View Member Profile	29/01/2013, 11:04 AM Post #7
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Until sort of near the end I was thinking "Yeah I can get where the friend is coming from," simply because that is our life sometimes. We spend so much time on the kids, that sometimes we just have to say no to someone. No matter what the occasion. However when I read the end about your DH doing the work for them, I thought "Drop the friendship or tell the friend how you are feeling and leave the ball in her court."

Sassy Dingo View Member Profile	29/01/2013, 11:04 AM Post #8
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Stop calling and see if she calls you.

AvadaKedavra View Member Profile	29/01/2013, 11:04 AM Post #9
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Well, if you have few other friends, just 'letting her go' just makes you the loser, doesn't it? What happened to talking to her about how you feel?

solongsuckers View Member Profile	29/01/2013, 11:15 AM Post #10
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QUOTE (AvadaKedavra @ 29/01/2013, 12:04 PM) Well, if you have few other friends, just 'letting her go' just makes you the loser, doesn't it? What happened to talking to her about how you feel? Freeing yourself of people that just use hardly makes you a loser. I'd rather have no friends than a bunch of crappy ones.

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