[Suzanne84]

Hi everyone,

I'm having a baby shower in March, my mum and MIL are organising it but I'm sending out the invitations. Do you think it's rude to include a gift "wish list" with the invitations? The thing is I have so many things already however there are still a lot of small things that I need. Should I call it a "wish list" or is there a nicer way to phrase it? Or should I just not include it at all?

[howdo]

Yes it's rude. I would not include it.

[MrsLexiK]

On EB baby showers are rude I would give a copy to your mum and MIL, I have always sussed out the hosts for ideas

[roses99]

Don't include a list, by whatever name you want to call it.

People will buy you little bits and pieces and - if they need help - they will ask you.

[stephmd85]

I have wondered this too, having a list of quite specific things we are yet to buy. I'm the kind of person who would rather know what someone needs and would use, than just try to guess or buy something pretty. Having said that I think it is a little presumptuous to include a list with the invite so instead, I'm giving it to my sister and MIL so that if anyone asks, ideas will be on hand!

[rosiebird]

On EB baby showers are rude I would give a copy to your mum and MIL, I have always sussed out the hosts for ideas

Great idea!

[**Mel**]

yeah, it is rude.

give your list to your mum and have her name/number as the RSVP.

That way, ppl that want suggestions can ask her

[namie]

Don't include the list.

I would check with the host (ie, your mum) to see if she knew if there was anything you wanted/needed, otherwise I would get you and the baby something cute and lovely of my own choosing.

I love shopping for babies!

[Mis-Placed]

i dont think a "list" is a good thing to do.... i know i would find it odd/rude/presumptious...?

However! You can def get your Mother and MIL to suggest gifts to your guests, that will work much better....

[starfire]

I sent one out with my baby shower invites - I was requested by family members as they wanted to know what I needed for the baby. But I put a disclaimer on the list and said that it was just a suggestion and no one was obliged to buy a gift.

I also added that I do not want stuffed toys or towels/handtowels as I do not have the room and also my mum has given me HEAPS of towels/handtowels (she crochets) so I was already set in that department lol. And when I asked my SIL to double check the list and make sure nothing sounded rude, she said that it was actually well worded.

I am happy to copy and paste here if you want examples of how to word it?

But I think in your case if no one has asked you out right, I would just do a list up and give to your mum and MIL as other PP's have suggested. Then if people do ask, they can go to your mum or MIL and get the info they need.

And ppfft, I don't think it's that rude, as long as you are not asking for specific brands and expensive priced things like a pram or something! People love spoiling babies, well it is the way in our families- people go clucky big time!