[Lickety Split]

I'm due to have DS in 2 weeks. I have one week left to RSVP to a friend's (more DH's friend than mine) wedding. The baby will be approx 4-5 weeks old at the time of the wedding. I would love to be able to go but not sure if I'll be feeling up to it, especially if I have to have another caesar. How would you RSVP in this situation?

ETA: Assuming they'll be ok with me bringing the baby of course. Maybe I should ask them...

This post has been edited by Lickety Split: 01/02/2013, 07:32 PM

[libbylu]

Assuming that the wedding is not too far away, I would just RSVP to say that you will come. At the very least your DH can go. If you can't make it, he can just make excuses on the day to say that you had planned to be there were not up to it. In any case, unless you suffer some kind of complications and you would imagine you would be able to cope with an hour or two at least.

[icekool]

If you explained the situation, they will understand although most receptions require exact numbers. They can accommodate last minute reshuffling of guests depending on how the tables are set up. So if you didn't mind sitting on a table with people you didn't know, it mightn't be a problem if you were keen to go to the reception.

DH's friend was getting married around the time DD was due. We RSVP'd we weren't going although I was keen to go to the ceremony but DD came early and no way could I go.

[JRA]

It is not hard, ring them and talk to them

[Loz07]

Do they have kids of their own? How understanding do you think they would be if you pulled out last minute?

The other thing is from memory our reception place only needed final numbers a couple of days before, so you could do a tentative yes and then let them know a week before depending on how you are feeling... Could be good as something adult to look forward to post bubs (we had a wedding 8 weeks post and it was great FWIW we had nanna babysit, but DD was settling/sleeping well in the evenings then so it worked)

You could also maybe take 2 cars (or DH taxi home) if you need to leave early?

I don't think people would really mind a 5 week old at a wedding... I think it's when they're old enough to be running around and/or you have to pay for them that people can get funny

[JECJEC]

Ring and find out what they would prefer you do.

[cb2]

I agree with JRA and was going to suggest to call the couple (or have your DH do so if they are his friend's ) and explain to them and they can see if once confirmed with the venue then that is how many they pay for. Otherwise if you still aren't sure you either go to the ceremony only or go to both and leave early if your too tired or not coping well.

[Lickety Split]

No they don't have kids of their own. It's quite a fancy wedding, very posh venues.

[JustBeige]

No they don't have kids of their own. It's quite a fancy wedding, very posh venues.

I wouldnt muck them around then. I would just send DH on his own.

[Bunsen]

Our wedding was very close to a friends due date so I just asked her to let me know 2 days before - when the venue needed final numbers. Obviously as the bride you don't want everything left to the last minute but one late but well communicated RSVP doesn't cause too much of a head ache. Talk to your friends now rather than leaving it.