[Dinosaurus]

Short story:

Aunt and Uncles are invited, cousins and extended family are not (big family, not close).

One Aunt and Uncle still have two adult (30) kids at home.

Do we need to specify or is the fact that it says "to aunt and uncle," enough?

I'd prefer not to start inviting distant cousins as that would add 30+ people and as I said, we aren't't geographically or emotionally close.

Thoughts?

[PatG]

Just invite the Aunt and Uncles. If you address it specifically to them, by last name on the envelope and first names on the invitation it should be pretty clear who is invited.

[SeaPrincess]

I would have thought that just "to aunt and uncle" would be enough, especially with adult children because I would send them their own invitations if they were invited.

But I've realised that you just never know what crazy things people will do when it comes to weddings!

[orangepeanut]

Well whenever I receive an invitation I always assume that the names listed on the invite are the people that are invited. So when we get an invite for only DH & I we never take our kids.

But that's me and you know what happens when you assume!

We had an uncle not come to our wedding because his kids (14,17 & 19) where not invited, no children were.

Do you have anyone that can subtlety mention it to then to gauge whether there are intending to bring their grown up children

[countrymel]

Before I joined EB I would have known without shadow of a doubt that an invitation was for the people who's names appeared on the invitation.

One would hope that adults (your cousins) would be able to understand that too...

I would be enlisting someone to do a subtle check for you though if you suspect they wouldn't.

[elizabethany]

I once rang the MIL to check whether I could bring DS (he was 1), but was happy when she told me it was child free. I would assume that any child over the age of 16 would get their own invite.

If I was in Aunts shoes, I would assume the adult kids were not invited.

[CallMeProtart]

Address it to the names of the people who are invited - that should be clear enough.

[Dinosaurus]

Before I joined EB I would have known without shadow of a doubt that an invitation was for the people who's names appeared on the invitation.

One would hope that adults (your cousins) would be able to understand that too...

I would be enlisting someone to do a subtle check for you though if you suspect they wouldn't.

Yes, I knew this before I joined EB too

I might leave it as Aunt and Uncle and see what transpires! Hopefully they work it out without asking...

[SplashingRainbow...]

I certainly would not expect to go to a wedding my parents were invited to - whether I was living at home or not.

[namie]

Just invite the Aunt and Uncles. If you address it specifically to them, by last name on the envelope and first names on the invitation it should be pretty clear who is invited.

I agree.

It can be a minefield with large families though, so good luck!