Ok I have 3 friends, two whom are really close and one is a FB friend.
so friend 1: We have known each other since the age of 8, been BF for so many years. She was MOH in my first wedding, my eldest childs godmother. She has the worst partner. He is a ar$e. He has never liked me from the beginning of their relationship (they got together when she was 17) I believe he has always been threatened by our friendship. Over the years he has been involved in drugs and criminal activity. She has gone on to have 2 children to him.
In the last 5 years I have bailed her out of situations at least 4 times, she has left him. He is violent and controlling. The last time her son was kidnapped by him and put in danger that it even made the local news as the police were worried about his safety, as her partner didnt know where I lived her and the children (once son was returned) stayed at our house rather then a safe house because she didn't want to be left alone in a hotel room. He ends up being arrested and locked up. She goes back home changes locks etc and we chat a few times a week.
Slowly this dwindles down, she starts not returning texts messages, not answering her phone etc. I can not get in contact with her to find our from friend of a friend that she is back with him.
After numerous attempts to talk to her I have given up. He will never change but he has no gotten what he wanted, the one big threat to his controlling out of her life
friend 2: extremely smart professional women gets involved with partnered man and falls pg, he disowns her and she takes the fall out, saying one night stand baby etc... I am then pg support (think all appointments, ultrasounds and even her birth partner) fast forward to child being 6 months and his partner finds out child exists she breaks it off with him and he basically moves in with friend. They have obviously been sleeping together still the entire time but none of his family or friends were aware child existed.
While friend was pg and he was being a ar$e he contacted her and i answered phone and gave him a serving. He does not like me at all.
So now since friend has shacked up with him, i have been dumped. No contact, cancelling of catch ups and final straw from the weekend... she was to squeezed for time that she may or may not have been able to attend my baby shower (something she had been sent invite to 5 weeks in advance and already RSVP yes too) so any way she doesn't show and I get jack of it and send her a sms telling her since I'm not important enough to even contact when you don't show im done, and rescinded any other invites we had extended to her (her other child was invited to my child bday party in a few weeks but since i have to pay per person and for any no shows i don't feel like I can trust her to attend and don't want my child to get their hopes up a certain person is coming when there is a great chance they wont show).
48 hrs later i finally get a sms, saying blah blah this happened which is complete crock and still doesn't explain why it took 2 days to contact me. I fully believe her partner didnt want her to attend.
friend 3- again abusive partner, keeps going back because he says if she doesn't he will kill himself etc... I'm done hearing the same excuses for the last 12 months. they have kids together, still sleeping together even though he is sleeping with other men and women. Same whinge and cry every other week when she takes him back and he does it all over again
yet with all these 3 women I still try and help. When would you stop?
This post has been edited by MadamDivine: 27/02/2013, 09:58 AM