I Have 3 kids almost4yr old DD1, 20mth old DS and 5mth old DD2
I care for my 3 1/2yr old DN and twin 18mthold DN's from 7am to 6pm 7 days a week.
6kids under 4
ive only been doing this for 6mths and it might be for another 6mths.
I find it hard not to favor my kids as i have molded them into the "perfect model" of children. I love spending time alone with only myne. The nephews seem to not like my stile of parenting and just dont seem to listen. I spend my day chasing them arround catching them doing wrong.
I get so frustrated. i cant understand why i need to treat them diffrently to my own. My house, my rules. they are sleeping at grandma's house and she has no control and dosn't seem to care what there getting into. all i hear from the older one is "im allowed at home" or "im telling nonna". Im quite oftern told by my MIL that i need to go easy on them as they've been thru a lot. i think they need a stable home and predictability.
Just some background: There house burned down so mum, dad and boys moved in with MIL. Dad left for someone else soon after the move. mum has never been the care giver as dad was the SAHD. She has lost her job for not turning up anymore. she spends all day sleeping and watching TV. MIL works her ass off with my DH on our family farm.
Do you think there should be diffrent rules for them to myne?