S sorry Hillmanminx I didnt get a chance to reply earlier thismorning. How did you go at the GP? I honestly wouldnt know which way to go, either paed or psyc? My Abbey seems very similar to your child and I really beleive there is more to her than what the paed has said. I truly think there are ASD or ADD traits there but the paed wouldnt go with that. And we waited ages to see her! Grrrr!
Both DH and I are sufferers of depression and anxiety, so I guess it was inevitable that Abbey would have some form of MI. It is also rampant on both sides of the family in past generations so the poor thing has copped it! Its great to hear your sons school are pro-active with him. Our school isnt so great and Im contemplating a move, if Abbey can cope with the change.
Ampsyd and PB2, its nice to meet you. Would love to chat more when your able to come in.
Thought I would give a quickish run down on my DD ( will try and make it quick lol )
Very difficult baby. Never slept. Just screamed. Wouldnt settle for anyone but me for a very long time. Didnt sleep thru until 4 years old!! Still wakes now at 6 but not as often, but its mainly when she is anxious or had a bad day.
Hates crowds, gets very nervous at playgrounds where there are other kids and clings on to me constantly when at a park. Will only play at the playground without clinging on to me if no one else is there. If there are just a couple of kids she will play but I have to be in there with her.
Doesnt like sudden loud noises, altho this is getting better with time. Has no idea on how to socialise and gets very anxious and goes into meltdown mode when things dont work out when playing with other kids. She doesnt understand or know how to manage conflict and if things are not going the way she is comfortable with, all hell breaks loose.
Still refusing to do a poo in the toilet ( is scared of something but we cant work out what, the paed said with some anxious kids they are afraid of letting go of what is inside them ). She is wee trained tho, but her bowel problems also cause constipation.
Has sensory processing difficulties.
Cannot leave her anywhere without me, except at school. She doesnt even like staying with dad sometimes, and goes into meltdown mode 90% of the time that I leave her at home with anyone. I have never been able to leave her at a birthday party and if we go anywhere like that she clings and refuses to interact with the other kids.
Has a speech delay and a stutter.
I think that is it! Phew!
The teacher was saying today that Abbey is not completing her work very well and there are constant trips to the toilet which is resulting in her not getting her work done. Im wondering if that is an anxiety thing ( had it last year in prep and it was anxiety ), or a way of her not haivng to sit still all the time at her desk, or a combination of both.
I spoke to the psychologist today that I have chosen and we have our initial consult in 2 weeks.
I really hope that we can accomplish some stuff and get my child enjoying life and to be not as fearful.
Hi to everyone. I probably wont get in the thread more than 2 or 3 times a week, like all of us Im so busy but I realy look forward to us all helping each other and sharing ideas. Evening coming in and having a cry ( which we all need ) will make us feel better.
Some people in society see anxiety as nothing. They see it as a very minor thing, like a grazed knee. And that is so upsetting. I see it at times when I have spoken to other parents at DD's school. They hear the word anxiety and say she is just nervy and will grow out of it, like its a nothing.
I want to scream at these parents that anxiety can rule a persons life and that it is not a nothing, but a very real and emotionally painful condition. One that can make a person life full of fear and can lock them down.
I wish people wouldnt think of anxiety as nothing. I wish they could see that it can control a persons life.
Chat soon girls xo