[KarenBubMachine]

Hi there

My nearly 5yo DS has been tt since just over 2yo and insisted on wiping his own bum from a very early stage. Hes always been a private pooer, in fact when I was tt him, he refused to poo in the potty when I was in the same room with him.

There was no problems (except the occasionaly smudgie on the wall/toilet seat/undies) but in the last few months he seems to be having some difficulty.

He would come close to you and you could smell poo on him. For a while we thought he was too busy playing and wasnt getting to the toilet in time and some poo was popping out. There were no nuggets in his undies, just a big smudgie. He would also get a sore bottom and sore nurrys due to the poo being in close contact with the skin.

We now think its him no wiping his bum properly and is just smearing it everywhere.

So my question is - which way do you teach your boys to wipe, hand down the front and wipe from bum to nurrys or hand down the back and wipe from bum upwards?

DH does the front way and Im the back way - DS cant seem to get either right!

Any other tips on helping him with his poo problem?

Thanks
Karen

[mumandboys]

I actually teach mine to wipe while they're still on the toilet - that way there's maximum access, if you know what I mean. I tell them to look at the paper and keep wiping till it comes out clean.

Having said that, my 6yo often doesn't wipe at all

and I'm still wiping my 4yo's bum for him - by the sounds of it I should be grateful he lets me!!

ETA: they wipe your way (ie. down the back and wipe upwards)

This post has been edited by mumandboys: 02/05/2012, 06:47 PM

[lsolaBella]

We are down the back and wipe backwards. I also tell mine to wipe until the paper comes back clear.

That being said, if at home DS1 (6yrs) calls on me to wipe his bum and DS2 I am currently wiping for (other issues with sore bum atm).

[JustSmileAndNod]

What is a nurry?

[KarenBubMachine]

Nurry - testicles

Thanks for replies so far.

He just doesnt seem to be able to grasp the 'wipe to get it off' concept, he just wipes and smears.

What gets me though is that he used to do it fine but its just the last few months that this problem has crept up. Could it be more of an emotional problem ie not enough attention or similar? DH & I have been busy moving house and he is the poor middle child?

[Daisy Goat]

Umm.. never in my life have I ever heard of anyone, including males who wipes like your husband.

I have never even read about it until your post.
I find it rather revolting and dragging Pooh towards your testicles instead of upwards to open space just makes me feel a little nauseous

[Chelara]

Get him some wet wipes. Make sure he washes his hands properly too as if his wiping is inadequate his hand washing probably is too.

[*Mimi*]

Flushable wet wipes are the answer to your problem

[Lil Chickens]

DD has insisted on wiping for some months and at first when she got off I would ask her to let me check it was clean - and she'd bend over.

Imagine my joy to be woken at my sister's house (I was on a mattress on the floor) by DD saying mum is it clean? I opened my eyes to the site of her bending over with her butt about 3 inches from my face!!

But on topic - I taught her to go in from behind and wipe backwards and while teach DS the same as that is what DH and I both do (well I assume DH does because I consider that is the right way).

[kriattica]

Kleenex flushable wipes are the answer!

ETA I just asked DH and he said that its not normal to wipe poop towards the important area.

This post has been edited by kriattica: 02/05/2012, 09:22 PM