[Guest_smartmummy13_*]

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This post has been edited by smartmummy13: 06/06/2012, 10:24 PM

[ubermum]

If someone won't care for your child in a way that meets their needs, then they should not care for your child at all. Pretty simple solution I would think.

[*mylittleprince*]

Why do you continue to send him if they don't respect your wishes. First time I would be upset, second time warning and if it happened a third time, I definately wouldn't let him stay there again. Rather go for visits where you can supervise his food intake/sleep, etc.

[Fossy]

Don't send him?

Eta - he is not even 2? That's very young to be away from his parents so much!

This post has been edited by Bubs10: 30/05/2012, 07:59 PM

[JustBeige]

Now what do I do?

Stop sending him.


Honestly it is that easy.


Your job is to protect your child. If they are not looking after him properly, then dont send him.

When you go with him and she gets him incorrect or not enough food, take it off him and get him something else or supervise and intervene.

YOU are his parent. If your mum doesnt like they way you do things then thats too bad.

They dont have a RIGHT to him.

You tell them that he wont be having sleepovers any longer as they arent listening or even remotely doing what you want. You will be more than happy to bring him for visits, or they can come to you but other than that, sleepovers arent happening.


If you are sending him due to work then try other baby sitters.

[Geesandhubs]

easy - don't send him there...

[Jenflea]

Why is he still going there if they don't do ANYTHING the way you like? I could let the odd thing slide, but it sounds like they shouldn't be caring for him at all if he's not being fed properly(that's abuse in my book), isn't getting enough sleep and lord only knows what else.
She doesn't HAVE to have overnight visits with him, he's what, 2? My daughter's 2 and she's NEVER been away from me overnight, I'M her main caregiver, she's gone to her GP's a few times for a few hours here and there, but that's it.
I would not let my child go overnight if she was 'cared' for in such a manner. Your child, your decision.

[EssentialBludger]

I wouldn't send him.

Simple.

[Superman+4sister...]

I know you enjoy the 'time out' you get when your ds is with his grandparents. But if you have serious concerns that he is not being adequately cared for (and they have no interest in changing) then the cost is too high. It sounds like it's time to stop the overnight / weekend visits. Do some harm minimisation if you need to, maybe only let him go for the day or for some of the day. But you don't sound confident that he's being well cared for - especially wrt his eating. So the visits need to stop.

ETA: *Don't* feel guilty. It is not a right for the grandparents to have weekend visits. It is a right for your ds to feel - and be - safe and properly cared for, and it's your job to make sure this happens. It's not an easy thing to do, but the right thing

This post has been edited by Superman+4sisters: 30/05/2012, 08:03 PM

[SplashingRainbow...]

If it were my son he wouldn't be going, particularly overnight.

He doesn't need to stay all weekend at less than 2 years old.

Is there a reason you are wanting him to go?