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> Those with Aging parents/grandies, how to handle these things?
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HillmanMinx
post 10/06/2012, 01:14 PM
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So mums in hospital. it takes us 1.5 hours there and 1.5 hours back.
I used to do it twice a day (coming home to pick the kids up).
I burned out.
I got dad accom in the city so he could be there every day.
10 days, 1800 dollars later - he came home. (we are 5kms outside the PATS scheme boundary)
Now we go daily, have been leaving at noon and getting home at 930 pm.
Mum is whinging 'nobody stays long' 'nobody visits' nno.gif
We are EXHAUSTED and have tried to explain but she just doesn't get it.
Maybe related to medications, maybe depression, not sure.

I have brought knitting up - she made me take it home.
We put the tele on - she made us turn it off.
Brother sent her an Ipad - she made us take it home.
Bought her a sketchbook and pencil - she complained it was wrong type.

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My dad collapsed yesterday - exhausted. My sis went alone. Mum almost had my sister in tears with her complaints and negativity.

What can we do - to help mum, to allay our guilt, to get life back some sanity!

We are facing a min of 5 more weeks of this IF she has surgery and her surgery is successful.
Otherwise - how long is a piece of string.

F our Lives!
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HillmanMinx
post 10/06/2012, 01:27 PM
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a rose by any other name :) aka sunrise, get shakey, merz, spice
leaving for the hospital - will check back later xx
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- HillmanMinx   Those with Aging parents/grandies, how to handle these things?   10/06/2012, 01:14 PM
- - mina_murray   Oh my goodness! I'm so sorry, that sounds ...   10/06/2012, 01:25 PM
- - FlutterbyBlue   Have you tried asking the Salvation Army (or the h...   10/06/2012, 01:33 PM
- - Aribika   Oh my. That is tough. It is obvious that both yo...   10/06/2012, 01:33 PM
- - missguided   Have you discussed this with her GP, the Hospital ...   10/06/2012, 01:44 PM
- - sueb31   Does she have any other friends or family, any chu...   10/06/2012, 01:59 PM
- - bakesgirls   What a terribly hard situation to be in. You all h...   10/06/2012, 02:04 PM
- - countrymel   HillmanMinx.. I am thinking of you! Last year...   10/06/2012, 02:20 PM
- - Lilymoon   Is it possible for you to just go every second day...   10/06/2012, 02:25 PM
- - round the twist   I totally understand. Dealing with fil in hospita...   10/06/2012, 02:56 PM
- - soontobegran   I have no words of wisdom but I just want to say t...   10/06/2012, 03:02 PM
- - luke's mummu   Does the hospital have a volunteer or diversonal t...   10/06/2012, 05:21 PM
- - Escapin   Are you the only child? Do you have other siblings...   10/06/2012, 05:29 PM
- - zlca_mummy   I really feel for you. My dad has recently spent...   10/06/2012, 05:46 PM
- - maurie   I'm sorry you're going through this. It i...   10/06/2012, 06:29 PM
- - ~Delilah~   QUOTE (Escapin @ 10/06/2012, 05:29 PM) Ar...   10/06/2012, 08:30 PM
- - miriams   Which city is your mum's hospital in? Sort o...   10/06/2012, 10:20 PM
- - treetop   Well, I imagine she'd probably object, but may...   10/06/2012, 11:42 PM
- - ~TSC~   Do you have such a thing as a community car that c...   11/06/2012, 05:27 AM
- - swimmingalong   hospital volunteer drivers. is there any way to g...   11/06/2012, 10:40 AM
|- - little lion   Even if your mum isn't particularly religious,...   11/06/2012, 11:01 AM
- - HillmanMinx   ThAnks for all the thoughts and ideas. My area got...   11/06/2012, 02:14 PM
- - HillmanMinx   OK lots of great ideas - too many for me to addres...   12/06/2012, 12:10 AM
- - Rock of Empathy   My mum (who has dementia) has been in hospital for...   12/06/2012, 11:43 AM
- - YodaTheWrinkledOne   Hang in there! You're doing a fantast...   12/06/2012, 11:49 AM
- - HillmanMinx   I don't know if I mentioned it but 2 days ago ...   13/06/2012, 12:09 PM
- - AMPSyd   The roster system sounds a great idea. You need to...   13/06/2012, 12:58 PM
- - PrincessPeach   My grandfather has recently been put into a nursin...   13/06/2012, 01:04 PM
- - missguided   Hillman Minx, I don't want to alarm you at all...   13/06/2012, 01:51 PM
- - miriams   Thanks for that MissGuided. My grandfather does ha...   13/06/2012, 02:43 PM
- - Akatara   Our grandparents tend to do this a bit. They see...   13/06/2012, 02:56 PM
- - HillmanMinx   Well my aunty who is a few years older than mum ha...   13/06/2012, 02:57 PM

 

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