[challice]

My husband picked up our son from aftercare to find he had a cut under his eye and a huge red mark (looks like it will be a black eye). No mention of anything from the aftercare people, no incident report. My husband asked my son what happened and he said another yr 1 told him to play somewhere else (my son and his friends were playing in this spot first) my son said no we can both play here and the kid decked him. My son said he started to cry and ran and told the teachers and they told the other boy not to hit. That's it, no punishment, nothing. My son is a very very soft, gentle child so I have no doubt this was a one way incident. After speaking to aftercare they support this belief.
What should I expect to happen now? I rang aftercare to complain about the lack of communication as no one said anything to my husband about the cut and big red mark ( the directer knew nothing about it, she wasn't there) and they said they will deal with it next week. So what's next?
What normally happens? Can I expect the child be made to apologise? ( he damn well should, it's quite a hit !).

[Kay1]

Hell yes!! I would expect to be told and assured that some action was being taken in relation to the other child to ensure it did not happen again. I would expect the teacher to ask the other child to apologise (or his parents to) but there's not much you can do to force an apology.

I would certainly need to know what the outcome was so that I could reassure my child that the hitter was not just getting away with it.

My son gave another boy a bloody nose (he didn't mean to, was trying to stop him from running and they clashed heads). My son was taken to the principal's office, had to miss recess and was brought to me by the deputy principal in the afternoon so I could be told what happened in front of him. He wrote a card and drew a picture apologising. It was taken very seriously by the school.

I hope your son is ok.

This post has been edited by Kay1: 22/06/2012, 07:03 PM

[little bird]

depends on what their policy is on behaviour. ask to view their 'interactions with children' policy which will outline the 'positive guidance of children' policy. these are legally required policies thanks to the new regulations.

i'd be guessing that the child who was violent will most possibly be required to write a letter or apologise, and there will be some discussions about his behaviour and the impact it had on your son. they will also talk to your son and get his version of events, and talk to him about how he can seek help from the carers if anything like this happens again.

the fact that there was no incident report written up is a breach of the regulations, so make sure one is written up immediately and you sign it, in case this was not an isolated incident. this will be kept on your child's individual file.

can you tell i work in aftercare?

[Guest_keikiscloset_*]

report it too the police it is assult.
A do not hit for a punch in the face is woeful.
If this happened to an adult it you would charge someone over it. I see no reason to do the same with kids.
And yes I have done this. When we lived in Sydney my y2 DS was punched in the face by y2 boy. Black eye and bad nose. I was not happy with the schools response and reported it too the police. If the carers aren't going to respond appropriately then the police should.
I see no reason to put up with a closed fist punch. boys will be boys but that is a farce and kids like that need to pulled up short before they turn into little b*****d bullies

[mandarins]

report it too the police it is assult.
A do not hit for a punch in the face is woeful.
If this happened to an adult it you would charge someone over it. I see no reason to do the same with kids.
And yes I have done this. When we lived in Sydney my y2 DS was punched in the face by y2 boy. Black eye and bad nose. I was not happy with the schools response and reported it too the police. If the carers aren't going to respond appropriately then the police should.
I see no reason to put up with a closed fist punch. boys will be boys but that is a farce and kids like that need to pulled up short before they turn into little b*****d bullies

Can I ask what the outcome was??

[JupitersMoon]

I would definately expect an apology at the very least, I'm quite surprised they took it so lightly... I would expect a 2 year old to attempt an apology, so I would damn well expect a 6 or 7 yesr old to apologize too.

report it too the police it is assult.

.... really? are you quite serious?

[Mrs.Brown]

I think I can understand where keikiscloset is coming from, although having the child charged would be going to far, fi that is what keikiscloset is saying.

If the hit was so hard, then the child is at risk IMO of becomming a bully, especially if not dealt with.

What I would do is expect the child to apologise, and also arrange a chat with the boys parents. If it was to happen again, I would get the police to talk to the hitting child. Not in a angry way, but to let the child know he has done wrong.

I involved the fire brigade when my youngest and his mates were lighting fires at the ages of around 7. Home punishments were not working, so I invoved an authority figure. My son and his mates never lit another fire.

Sometimes, authority figures can work wonders.

[BlondieUK]

report it too the police it is assult.
A do not hit for a punch in the face is woeful.
If this happened to an adult it you would charge someone over it. I see no reason to do the same with kids.

I see no reason to put up with a closed fist punch. boys will be boys but that is a farce and kids like that need to pulled up short before they turn into little b*****d bullies

They can be pulled up on it without it becoming a police issue. I would doubt that the police would do anything about a 5-6 year old and a one-off punch/hit.

The bigger issue here is the lack of communication from the teachers/staff. There should be an incident report with any injury. If there isn't one, ask to see their safety and behaviour policies and discuss with them how they should be improved.

And also be aware that the other child's parents may have already been informed: it's hard to tell from a child of that age what all the repercussions may have been, as he might not be fully aware of everything that happened after the event.

[Ducky*Fuzz]

The bully should have been made to move away and sit somewhere else alongside one of the staff, the child's parents should have been called, an incident report filled in and as it was an injury to the head, you should have been called. It may not have been forceful enough to do a lot of damage but I always make sure any injury to the head is reported.

[*CalamityJane*]

The bully should have been made to move away and sit somewhere else alongside one of the staff, the child's parents should have been called, an incident report filled in and as it was an injury to the head, you should have been called. It may not have been forceful enough to do a lot of damage but I always make sure any injury to the head is reported.

Agree you should have been called. It is our school policy that all head injuries, no matter how minor are reported to the parents by phone. I got a call from the deputy late last year when DD walked into a wall LOL.

Hope your little one is OK OP.