[charlottesmum04]

Thanks everyone for your advice....


Please dont use the quote feature in case i need to delete this.

This post has been edited by charlottesmum04: 22/06/2012, 09:40 PM

[Kay1]

Easy. I would make contact with child services. Now. Those kids need you to watch out for them, not excuse yourself from the situation. Its up to you whether you tell the mother or not, but either way I don't think you have any choice.

[babybeli]

I would report it if I felt the children were not being cared for correctly. It would be terrible to have to do that to a friend but I couldnt live with knowing I did nothing for the kids.

[Jenflea]

I think closing your eyes to the situation is letting it get worse, and you should report it AND give her support as well.
You need to step up and do the right thing. How would YOU feel if it were your children in a similar situation? Wouldn't you want someone to step in and help them or get them the help they need?

[charlottesmum04]

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This post has been edited by charlottesmum04: 22/06/2012, 09:41 PM

[doctorseuss]

Wow, she needs help and so do the kids, don't ditch them. You need to report her, so she can get the help she needs.

The only other option is to arrange that halo yourself, thought her family (do you know her Mum?), or GP.

How tough for you too OP.

[Pooks*potters]

Protective services may be able to get her the help she needs. You're not getting her in trouble, you're trying to get her help.

Make the call.

[Baggy]

I wouldn't report her over her house getting messier or forgetting to bring afternoon tea a few times.

If it were one of my friends in that position, I'd go over and help clean up, get DP to watch her children, and have a few wines and see what is going on. If she didn't already have support for her mental health issues and self harming etc, I'd help her get in touch with somebody.

Obviously if things get worse and the children are in danger, then you have to report. My first steps would being trying to help out first though.

[Verurtle]

I have been there but in LDC. It was a friend, but not a close friend. She dsclosed info to me whilst at work and I had to report it. I told her and lost her trust and friendship.

Based on my previous experience I would not tell her you are/will make a report. In my case they did not do anything with my report except file it. If I had of waited one more day I would not have worried about telling her.

Go through the keep them safe guide and find out for yourself if you need to make a report.

[Mrs Mel]

I would make the report. The situation needs to be checked out and she needs some support. It's tough when it's a friend but these children may need someone to speak up for them.