[purpleblackqueen]

Hayley is having her first sleepover here tonight. I have treated the girls to DVD's and they are sleeping in the lounge room (DD's room is too small)

Anyway about 10.30pm I told the girls I was going to bed and that they were to stay in bed and watch the movie.

I got up a few mins ago to get a drink and check on them.

What did I find- well, DD had been into JAck's room and while he was asleep drawn all over his face in pink pen, ripped his covers off him, shoved a dirty sock under his nose.

I have questioned the girls and DD admitted to doing it.

I have gone off at her and sent them both to bed.

But I am still angry and thinking of a suitable punishment.

Ideas please?

Lately she is turning into a spoilt little brat.

[BlondieUK]

Well, for a start, no more sleepovers for a while
Did she get egged on by the friend? If so, it might turn out to be a 'teachable moment' about peer pressure and being able to say "No" when it matters.

As for other punishments, an apology to Jack, and no use of the DVD player for x days? (Seeing as a DVD was part of the sleepover treat?)

[purpleblackqueen]

Well, for a start, no more sleepovers for a while
Did she get egged on by the friend? If so, it might turn out to be a 'teachable moment' about peer pressure and being able to say "No" when it matters.

As for other punishments, an apology to Jack, and no use of the DVD player for x days? (Seeing as a DVD was part of the sleepover treat?)

I dont think she was egged on by her friend, but I can't be sure.

This post has been edited by purpleblackqueen: 23/06/2012, 01:13 AM

[*Hayley]

I guarantee she was egged on we all did it to friends and they to us (egged on I mean)

No sleep overs for sure banned from a social function coming up and maybe a chat about how she can't be trusted until she can proves she can be!

Remember too in years to come it will be something that you can laugh at, not now but it will come

[BlondieUK]

In the morning, when you are a bit more calm, ask both the girls what happened. Then ask your daughter again after the other girl goes home.

[purpleblackqueen]

In the morning, when you are a bit more calm, ask both the girls what happened. Then ask your daughter again after the other girl goes home.

I will, now if only I could calm down enough to sleep.

[Mrs.Brown]

I know it seems the girls have been fair little so and so's Liz, but I have to say I think they have just been "pranking".

Of course, they should have left Jack alone, but I also dont think its anythng to get too worked up about TBH.

I would have a chat with Hayley in the morning and tell her very firmly that Jack is to be left alone totally in future when she has sleepovers, or that sleepovers will be a rare thing in the future if she and her friends cannot be trusted.

Apart from that, I probably wouldnt push it too much. Be stern and firm, but in all honestly its not a huge deal IMO. Just girls being very silly.

Maybe make her do Jacks chores for a day or so while Jack is enjoying himself doing fun stuff. Then leave it at that for this time, and see if she can be trusted at the next sleepover.

I will, now if only I could calm down enough to sleep.

Liz, calm down. They were not smoking, not drinking, not raiding the freezer of its icecream. Calm down. Its not that bad. Really. If you cannot sleep because your daughter drew on Jacks face when he was asleep, well I dont know what you can do to relax! Its done, its over. Have sweet dreams

This post has been edited by Icehouse: 23/06/2012, 01:46 AM

[Kafkaesque]

I probably would of been trying to stifle my laughter. IMHO I would have given a stern talking to and sent them to bed and that would be the end of it for me.

[BlondieUK]

Second what Icehouse said. It's often hard not to be over protective, especially when there are other factors at play.

[mmk]

I probably would of been trying to stifle my laughter. IMHO I would have given a stern talking to and sent them to bed and that would be the end of it for me.

This. I'd also be thinking that she was trying to fit in with her new friend, and I wouldn't be making a big deal of it in front of her friend. Don't mention it again until the friend has gone, then explain that Jack is off limits or there'll be no more sleep overs.

Don't forget that she's just moved away from everything and it was you that took her there. I know you did the right thing, but she's a kid and might not see it that way yet... That's possibly the reason for her behaviour lately.