[caroline10]

I currently work part-time 3 days a week in an office job, basically just for the $$$ (not a career or anything). We have a DD who is in mid/upper primary. I have been working for about a year and a half, and also worked for a few years when she first started school until my job became redundant.

I am so over work. I always dreamt that I would be a SAHM and be there to drop her off and pick her up from school everday, be able to do all the school things like volunteer for excursions, help out and be part of the school community, be there for her after school to help her with homework etc etc. Instead she spends time in afterschool care for the majority of the week, and I have to battle to get permission from my boss if I want to have a day off to volunteer for something etc etc etc.

I know these are all small things but these are things I've always wanted to do, and I can see primary school slipping away and we will never get it back. I don't even enjoy the work I do tbh. It is purely for $$$ sake.

My delimma of course is, if I leave, we will struggle to manage on one income. We can do it with some over, but not anything significant enough to pay more than just minimum repayments on our loan, and not enough to save for holidays or repairs to our house (we have a few that need attention) or anything like that. I fear leaving my job because it will really impact on us financially, and I also fear that if I take another few years off that I will find it really difficult to get back into the workforce, particularly part time as there as so few of these jobs about. But the fact is I am miserable at the moment. I am really miserable, and I can see time passing and I know I am not going to get any of this back. I really resent having to go to work because I feel like I am missing something precious that I can't ever get back if that makes sense. But at the same time I am worried that if I leave we will really struggle and I may regret the decision. My DH is happy for me to leave, he is pretty easygoing aobut it all, so he is happy to support me but I just don't know what the right thing is to do.

Any advice or thoughts would be welcome, I am really struggling atm.


ETA to clarify the situation a bit further:

Stuff we will not be able to afford if I am not working would be stuff like holidays, replacing our old car, etc etc. We would have some over, but nothing significant and would be paying down our morgage slowly just bit by bit (however we have a large chunk of it already paid off so it is not a big loan). So I don't know, how much of that is financial stability and how much is wants? Do we need to go on a big holiday, no, but would I like to give that experience to my daughter before she starts high school, yes. It's that kind of thing.



This post has been edited by caroline10: 19/07/2012, 11:57 AM

[KA]

The world of EB is a fascinating place at times. I can't believe you are getting 'told off' for wanting to spend more time mothering your daughter and being there for her.

OP it really sounds like you want to be at home. If you and your DH can have a roof over your heads, put food on the table and clothes on your backs without you being in paid employment, it really sounds like it would be the best thing for your family.

I totally understand what you are saying about the 'pace' of life when you are working, even if it is only part time. The school holiday issue is also worth important consideration.

Call me old fashioned but I don't think you need counseling because you are willing to sacrifice some of the wants in your life to spend more time with your daughter.

EFS

This post has been edited by KA: 19/07/2012, 11:38 AM

[Bam1]

The world of EBAY is a fascinating place at times. I can't believe you are getting 'told off' for wanting to spend more time mothering your daughter and being there for you.

If that was all the OP was doing, no one would be discouraging her. What the OP is saying is that she wants to put her family in financial stress at the same time, and that's what most people are disagreeing with.


OP you need to decide whether any extra benefit your daughter may get from the extra school pickups (I suspect it would mainly be for your benefit, though ) would be worth the extra stress you will place the whole family under.

This post has been edited by Bam1: 19/07/2012, 11:45 AM