[Ireckon]

If you are moving into/building a new house?

Let's assume that there are enough rooms to enable each child to have a room of their own. There are 2 rooms that are smaller, one that is bigger. Not by a huge amount, but enough to make it noticable.

How do you decide which child gets the big room? Is it automatically the oldest child? The girl? the older boy? The tidiest? How do you choose who gets that little bit of extra room, and how do you choose without putting other children out by that choice?

[Dinosaurus]

Let them choose and if they all want the same room draw straws.

It's amazing what some kids think is a benefit in a room!

[Manicmum]

The one who enjoys time alone?

[galba]

We're building a new house with 5 bedrooms. The 4 kids (6-12yo) chose their own rooms - they worked it out amongst themselves.

[Bacongirl]

When we moved into our house, there were two 'kids' bedrooms and a guest room.

The two kids rooms were similar sized but one had a bigger closet. DD got the bigger closet as we figured she'd just have more clothes to hang up. (yep gender bias in our house!).

As it is DD now wants the guest room (cause it's cool and has a view) DS hates his room (cause it's too far away from everybody )


Can't win.


EFS

This post has been edited by Coffeegirl: 31/07/2012, 08:07 PM

[her mum]

Well, when I was a child I was always lumped with the smaller room, despite being the oldest, because I was the one who would be 'okay' with it - my brother had/has some behavioural problems.

Me personally, I would give the bigger room to the older child, it seems to me the only option that makes sense in a non-subjective way.

If you gave it to the tidiest for example, the others would be waiting for them to make a mess, and would you give it to a different child if they became tidier?

And what rule book says that either boys or girls should get a bigger room?

But you can't dispute seniority by age!!!

[~~diz~~]

As a child i was always given the bigger room because i was the older child yet if given a choice i would have chosen the smaller one as it was cosier and easier to keep clean. As it is my brother and i swapped rooms and he had the bigger one and i had the smaller one.

I would let them surprise. You would be surprised what benefits a child see's in a room

[Ireckon]

But you can't dispute seniority by age!!!

This is what we were leaning to, I was just a bit niggly that it might be unfair to the younger 2. And the oldest is also the only girl!

[VintageEyes]

The one who enjoys time alone?

This.

Or let them swap every couple of years.
As the middle child, I was either in with my older or younger sister. I always hated I never got a room of my own, which in our case was the "better" room.

[bakesgirls]

I would personally give it to the oldest if they wanted it. Or if I had two that had to share a room, then they would get the bigger room, after all 2 in one room, leaves less space.