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CindyK
Hey Ladies

Here's some new space for you....BG#1 can be found here..

http://members.essentialbaby.com.au/index....howtopic=192746

Love
LJV
Thanks for doing the housework Cindy LOL
We were getting a bit slack with it original.gif
xfactor
Ok,
I just have to post because we have fallen so far off the first page, but I don't think I have much to report as yet !
I have been on BCP for 20 days now, and my ED starts lucrin in 2 weeks, so I am sure I will be posting lots of freakouts soon !!! aaaaaaaarrrrrrhhhhhhhhhh.
How are you all ?? whats going on ???
Hope you are all happy & healthy
Have a great weekend
X
LJV
Wow...X, that's exciting! I'll be very interested to hear all about every stage of your journey.

Nothing much happening here...searching for a donor.

Rain xx
CeeBee
Hi Rain and XFactor,

I notice your signature says 'moving on to ED' and at first I took this as Embryo donor, but then realise you probably mean Egg Donor??

I am probably right behind you - just starting my research.

CeeBee
xfactor
Hey CeeBee,

Yes it is egg donor, as my DP likes to tell me "his part works perfect " !

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Good luck with your reserch, I myself foung a huge weight lift off my sholders when we decided to move on to ED.
Once you make a decision, its not nealy as daunting as it seems.
Good luck
X
ltm
Hi everyone, just checking in,

Can't wait to follow your progress X

Nothing much to report, I see my new doctor at the end of the month, have been waiting ages for this appointment, hopefully it gets us off the starting blocks in terms of new clinic etc..

Best wishes to all.. Leanne
CeeBee
Hi XFactor.....thankyou for responding, after reading through the posts in recipients BG#1, I then totally realised ED was egg donor.

Funny you say about the wait being lifted, I have really only just started considering this option....I knew that looking further afield was possibly 'around the corner' but it wasn't until my FS verbalised it on Thursday that it has been a full on consideration in my mind. I am just starting to 'warm' to the idea, and I'm sure once I totally accept and get on with it, it will be a weight lifted. Having said that, I am preparing to give IVF one (or two??) more shots - if my FSH level will let me. I will make an appointment with a counsellor shortly just to find out what I'm in for and how I go about getting the ball rolling.

Naturally I have so many questions, but I just have one for now if anyone could help or give their opinion. I have been thinking in the back of my mind if I know of any likely donors and I thought of a very good friend of mine. She has definitely completed her family (but I can't remember how old she is, I know she is younger than me, and I think she may be 36???? maybe 37?? Maybe even too old??). She is an aussie, but currently they live in NZ and will be for at least another 12-18 months. I know that IF she agreed to this, she could get back to Melbourne easily enough but the logistics may just be too hard. But aside from all of that - my question is - how do you approach someone to ask them?? Do you just kind of come right out with it, or do you just let them know you are looking for a donor and hope that they might consider themselves and offer? The husband has been a friend of mine for the last 20 yrs and his wife has become a very dear friend also. They are coming to Melbourne in a few weeks (for his 40th birthday party) and IF I did want to discuss it, at least I would have a chance to do it in person - but wondering how to go about it. Obviously it would be quite early for me to start approaching as i am still getting my head around it all (and still wanting to do on more IVF),but knowing she could be a perfect candidate it would be a good opportunity to sound her out. Or....do you think her being in NZ would just be ridiculous anyway? And the fact she may even be 37 or 38??

Sorry if I am using all the wrong words and terminoligy, I feel weird talking about this - and using the words 'candidate' etc - but I will learn. So anyway, any tips on approaching friends with this sort of thing??

Thanks in advance, and good luck to you all in your journey.

CeeBee

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tracy66
Hi CeeBee,
I've been in a similar situation to you - I was also a poor responder to IVF and also had several cycles cancelled due to high FSH. Its just a sign of age for me being 39.

When we first began considering ED, my best friend offered to donate - she believed herself to be extremely fertile ( 2 kids, been pregnant several times when using contraception) She is 40.
Although my FS said he would consider her as a donor if she tested out ok with all her bloods, her levels also showed high FSH due to age. (although she wouldnt respond well to IVF she still may have had no trouble conceiving naturally..)

I had another friend who was about 36 also offering but I realised that unless the donor was going to really up the statistics (ie be much younger than me) i wouldnt want to go through all the time, money and heartache for only slightly increased odds. I was lucky enough to find a potential donor who is only 23 but until she has her appt with my doc next week she wont make the final decision.

Logistically as you said, process could also be very tricky with a donor not being in the same country even if she is willing to travel.


Regarding how to approach a potential donor, I would tell her of your situation and the option of ED, let it all sink in and let her think about it, then approach her after she has hade time to think. She may even have offered by then. I was amazied at the few friends and one young acquaintance that all offered without me having to ask once they knew of my situation.

With a donor thats 25 you have about 50% chance of success. The older they are esp over mid 30's the chances really decrease. For me I just decided I'd been through enough and only want to proceed with great odds. These are SIVF success rates according to age ( works out same as age of donor)
http://www.sydneyivf.com/page.cfm?id=38

Good luck with your decision
provencein3
Hi Tracy

But would you turn down a donor because they were 36.

I have a potential donor who I thinkk is ideal. Unfortunately she won't be able to donate for anywhere between 9 - 12 months. I have recently had a 36 year old approach me who I'd say is fairly definite in donating if we both meet each others 'criteria' following conversation. If you were in my shoes would you say no to the 36 year old when there is no guarantee you won't get someone else for a long time.
tracy66
Hi aurynsearch
No of course I wouldn't turn her down, especially if it was my only option at that stage. (I didnt turn my 40 year old friend down, but the bloods did that for me.) However i am just letting CeeBee know that she may need to be prepared for the fact that her friend may not be as suitable as she'd hope. I just wanted CeeBee to be informed. Also when there is a donor that is already over 35 that would be delayed further for some reason, unfortunately this still lowers the odds for success. There is always the chance the donor will defy all odds and we are all hoping for miracles with every step of the IVF game - but for me I just felt that i couldn't handle risks that were too great. This is just my story and everyone has to make their own decisions. I only passed my 36 yr old friend up because I was in the extremely lucky situation of having a much younger donor at hand at the same time.
I hope your donor is perfect

Tracy
provencein3
Hi Tracy

Sorry I always forget to sign these things. By your bloods do you mean FSH level. Is that standard as part of the genetic testing. Haven't got that far yet and never had it done, that I'm aware of on my own cycles. having said that I guess that's why they do day 1 bloods, although I didn't always have them.
tracy66
Hi Kim, Yes they check FSH, oestrogen and progesterone on day 1 2 or 3 and also do standard checks for things like HIV, hepatitis, syphillus, a gene for cystic fibrosis, & a full blood count.
Of course there is counselling involved if they pass the bloods.
Tracy
CeeBee
Hi Tracy and Aurynsearch

Thanks for your advice and input - it is all food for thought and I appreciate hearing all views and comments - so thanks.

CeeBee
tracy66
Hi Girls,
My potential ED finally (after an agonising 8 weeks) had her appt with my FS and still seems keen. I keep expecting her to change her mind. She had her bloodwork done today too so awaiting results. Then if all is OK, its an ultrasound for her and then onto counselling. Keeping my fingers crossed...

Tracy
xfactor
Great news Tracy,
Best of luck with the appointment.
X
tracy66
turns out my ED needs an ultrasound befire my FS will read all the results together, so now just waiting for her to get a U/S appt. Its all so agonising the waiting and I cant bear that its out of my control! She will only do appts outside of her work hours which is why we keep having these long delays but she will only proceed if the cycle is all over and done with by end of july as her parents are then visiting form O/S. I know she is being so amazingly generous by even thinking about donating but I still feel so out of control and helpless! aaaarrrgghh@@#!!

Tracy
provencein3
Hi Tracy

I can relate somewhat as I have a potential donor that I think is interested by don't have much communication from. She said she might be busy with easter etc so probably wouldn't hear from her so not quite sure whether she is still keen etc. Don't like to chase as that could turn her off but I had a similar incidence at the end of last year with a donor who disappeared shall we say so not being too hopeful.
tracy66
Hi Kim,
I so hope your current potential ED reappears soon. Its awful isnt it. I dont think they realise how much angst we are going through. Most EDs seem like such amazingly caring, generous and altruistic people but it is difficult when in our case it seems they are a bit more breezy about it all.
My ED rang me this afternoon, still hadnt make the U/S apt so I offered (again) to make the appt for her. The best one I could get was in 2 weeks time. I am not even sure what kind of US it is (I made it for a pelvic exam) so am hoping it doesnt matter that she'll be towards the end of her cycle by then. She is on the pill so doesn't ovulate anyway. Does anyone know? Couldnt get on to doctor to ask either and his assistent thought it was just a plevic exam, no follicle scan required but would love confirmation.

Tracy
provencein3
I wish I could give you more advice on what the procedures are for the donor. I would think it depends on the doctor.

I'm wondering even if my potential donor does reappear whether the fact she is missing in action at times means that she won't be able to make appointments either.

Frustrating when for some it appears (though perhaps there is more behind the scences that we're not aware of) that its all easy and organised within a matter of weeks.

Let me know how you go and what the scans are all for as I might need to find out myself in the future.
CeeBee
Hi everyone.....well I have only just started researching the whole 'ED' path, and just last night a good friend asked me where I was at with my whole 'journey' so I was telling her all about how I am at the stage of probably needing to find a donor (knowing full well that she was a potential candidate made this a bit uncomfortable but being a close friend i wanted to tell her regardless) and lo and behold she pretty much outright told me that she had already decided that she wanted to offer. The good part is that she says she had already thought about it, had already discussed it with her husband (who was actually my friend before they got together so both of them are very dear friends). What I mean is, it isn't like she was offering because she felt I was hinting and felt put on the spot (if you know what i mean). But I know there is a long way to go because there is so much to consider and think/talk about. Last night after she said that, I didn't want to appear pushy and so we really didn't go into it in any depth apart from acknowledging that I needed a donor and she was prepared to offer.

Anyway.....I think I mentioned her in a previous question to you all a while back - she is an australian citizen but currently lives in NZ. They just happen to be here for a wedding and her husbands 40th birthday party this weekend which gave me a great opportunity to put my feelers out with them. She is currently 36 turning 37 in July (I wasn't sure how old she was before)....however, I am wondering how we will get around the fact that she lives in NZ. She is here for a few more days but I don;t think we will get the opportunity to discuss it properly enough to decide to see the FS and/or councellors etc while she is here.

Actually I don;t really have a particular question, just kind of needed to 'verbalise' that I might have a potential donor (fingers crossed without getting too excited just yet) and wondering if anyone has any input with regards overseas donors??

CeeBee



Hi Tracy

I am not totally sure what kind of scan is required, but I think it is a pelvic scan (like you have booked). But you will need to check properly to be sure.

CeeBee
tracy66
Hi CeeBee, Thats great news that your friend has offered to be a donor, you must be very happy and relieved. As you are both committed to the process I think the O/S barrier is surmountable. She'll need to have all her testing done first anyway which will be no problem to do over there and can even do the counselling via the phone. Obviously she'll need to be free to travel at fairly short notice if all goes ahead. I have a friend who is using an O/S sperm donor and they did all the tests O/S, then counselling and doctor consulation via phone, and he will fly over here as she nears EPU. If your clinic is understanding it will be fine.

By the way the scan was "pelvic pathology" which apparently is first an external then an internal scan. First she'll need to do bloods - FSH, oestrogen and progesterone on day 1-3 of cycle and then all tests like HIV syphillis, hepatitus etc

Let us know how you go!

Tracy
xfactor
Great news about your friend being a possible donor Ceebee. I hope it all goes well, best of luck.

Tracy - what date is your ED's U/S ? I hope it's not to far away.
How is everyone else ??
My ED has been on Lucrin since Sun and gets back to Oz on the weekend for her blood test on Sunday.
And my TMI !!!! Heavy spotting has started again today, I am starting to get worried that I wont get a fresh transfer, I also want to know why I am not on Lucrin because it seems that is the norm for recipient's ????? AAAARRRHHHHH
STARTING TO FEEL REAL, BIG TIME !!!

X
xxx
tracy66
Hi X, How exciting for you! hope it all goes to plan and you get a fresh transfer. So you must be due for transfer in about 2 weeks right? I have a question for you too, is there any preference to what BCP the recipient should take? Cos I am thinking of starting on it next day 1 (after your experience of not being told earlier i am trying to get a step ahead)
My ED's ultrasound is next Friday 5th so a week to go. We both have our first counselling session tomorrow as I was too impatient to wait til after the U/S!

The latest in our process was that my ED had to wait 2 hours to see a GP to get the rubella script she needed yesterday in her lunchbreak and was late back to work. She got in trouble at work and now i am worried about her going to other appts and it all getting too hard. I've suggested she take a day off (paid by me) and try to get the US and 2nd counselling done on the same day without too much stress.

Anyway, will see what happens. I have to say though I am getting very stressed about being so near and yet so far!

Any news on your ED Kim?

Tracy
tracy66
Ahh, am feeing much more relaxed and confident today. Both my ED and my DH and I had our first counselling sessions today and it all went fine - so it all feels more real now and the counsellor didnt have any concerns about my ED so far. The counsellor was great and we dont need to do a second one. My ED has her second one next week and then we'll all do our group one the week after.

X - I phoned the nurses today and asked them about the pill and they said it would be easier if I was on it too and to come in next week for a script. So I am really feeling on top of things now. We should really be ready for a June/July transfer if things keep going well!

Tracy
provencein3
Hi Tracy

Not really.

I've actually been chatting with two ladies. One was keen as mustard and would have jumped right in. But she wanted to be a support afterwards etc so I still think you need to get to know the person. I didn't find it particularly easy emailing her. Not sure why. Other lady its easier but she had an issue which I've posted on AED for some feedback. So we shall see what happens. the year is ticking away..

I do have an ad going in the Playgroup enewsletter in May. Shall see what happens. I previously advertised in Brisbane Child and didn't get any response so I guess i'm not overly optimistic.

I don't suppose anyone here works at the Sunnybank Private hospital or QEII do they. Want to get some temporary employment and don't know at this stage who to approach.
CeeBee
Hi guys....I saw my 'potential' ED again on Friday but couldn't really chat much about it as it wasn't the time/place (her husband/my good friend's 40th birthday party). But she assured me that she is still interested and more to the point, didn't want to feel pushy to me and wanted to make sure I would say no if I didn't want to. I joked that i was ready for her to sign on the dotted line and that i was just playing it cool so as not to scare her off. We both had a bit of a laugh but it is so good to know that she is serious!!

We will have one final catch up this afternoon before they head back to NZ tomorrow - and hopefully we can have a bit more of a chat about things (but their girls will be around so may not be 'ideal' again).

Can someone go through the process (step by step) in broad outline for me - for eg, what comes first - councelling or FS appointment/tests? What is the time frame from the point that we all decide to 'go ahead' (ie after all necessary appts) to transfer??

I am just trying to figure out what she can do in NZ, or whether it would be worth me getting her over here for the FS/councelling, and then back again for the actual procedures? I know things can be done over the phone etc, but I think it would be ideal to see a councellor face to face as over the phone you can't really have a 'chat' - it's more just giving answers to questions (iykwim). And would love my FS to meet her before hand. Or do you think it's really uncessary?

CeeBee
tracy66
Hi Ceebee, thats great news. The process depends on which clinic you are with. Can't remember if you told us which one you're at? It can also vary depending on circumstances. Probably what will happen is this:

Your FS will tell you what tests your ED will need to have - includes one blood collection where several things will be tested and one ultrasound to check pelvic health. She could have these in NZ. The results will tell her whether she is a suitable donor. She would then need to see your FS (they can do phone appts). There can be a bit of a wait (perhaps few weeks) to get the appt with FS and even ultrasound we found hard to get an appt but may be easier in NZ.

If that all goes OK, at SIVF they make the donor first do 2 counselling sessions one on her own and with her partner (you and your partner also do one or 2) and then you have one group one altogether. You'd usually have these 3 sessions say a week apart.

Then both of you would have the nurses appt just before you start. From this point, you'd also need time to allow yourselves to get in sync which seems to be by easiest both going on the pill. You can ask about this ahead of your nurses appt to save time. Say you were both already on the pill then as far as i understand you'd wait til your donors next last week of cycle for her to start lucrin /synarel then she'd start stimming after her period and you'd come off the pill at that point. (anyone correct me if i'm wrong). So theoretically after the nurses appt the most you'd be waiting to start (say you'd just missed out on the timing) would be around 4 weeks. Then she'd have around 2-3 weeks of injections etc til EPU and another 3-5 days til transfer.

You could always get her over here to do the final group counselling & FS appt (and maybe nurses appt) at the same time. Then she could do all her injections etc over there and come back here just before pickup. Not sure what happens with getting meds to her or getting them in NZ. Maybe you could ring your FS to get a theoretical plan of attack soon so you can start planning?

Tracy
CeeBee
Thanks for the info Tracy - helps a lot. I am with Melbourne IVF. Is anyone else here going through them? Be great to get some first hand info on their procs - the councellor explained it all to me when I went to see her but at that point it all was a bit of a blurr as I had not found a donor and thought it would be ages down the track, so i didn;t take it all in properly (for eg, I'm pretty sure she said that she does not do the 'group' session??).

My friends still have not arrived, and given that it is getting a bit later in the day and we are going to have fish and chips when they get here with their kids, and they have had so many final 'catch ups' today that they may not be in the mood for any serious discussions. Oh well, I have gathered some literature and a DVD the clinic gave me so I will give her all of that to read first. Then I will do my own research as to how we are going to co-ordinate all of this being in different countries. Luckily i have some FF points so i may be able to get her over here more than once if it will be easier for all concerned.

I have actually started a flare cycle so I have that to keep me going while we do the research, with any luck, I may not even need to go down this path but am fully mentally prepared to if need be. Just hope that my potential ED does not balk which could happen of course - she hasn't had any councelling and we have not really talked about this properly - not at all and you never know, something may not work out??? This cycle will give us the breathing space to talk and let it all sink in i guess.

Will be back with more questions I'm sure. Really appreciate everyone's help and advice on here.

Aurynsearch, good luck with finding your ED - maybe one of the women you have as candidates will come through for you?

Tracy, sounds like you are really progressing with things, what a relief to start getting to the 'business' side of things under way.

XFactor, good luck with proceeding with your fresh transfer, fingers crossed for you.

Thanks again everyone...

CeeBee
Little~Oggy
Personally I found Monash much better than melbivf.....also my question is have they improved the telephone system with the nurses? The ED nurse at moansh is just gorgeous she will ALWAYS be my fav nurse! I just found much better in terms of looking after ED.

You will also need to be aware as your girl is an NZ girl you won't get medicare coverage for her. Plus melbivf charge you an additional $500 for every new donor you bring in to work with.

Jacinta
xfactor
Hey girls,

Great news Tracy, Iam so glad to hear things are underway.

Ceebee, best of luck to you with what ever pans out.

Quick update..... ED had 1st BT today, and all is great !
So I get to stop BCP YIPPPPEEEEEEE ! (can you tell I did not like it ?)
Now we are both waiting for AF'S to start Lucrin/Estradiol.
One other thing, I went to pay/collect greencards on Friday, and much to my suprise SIVF have droped the price for a fresh thansfer cycle by $900.00 !
Wooohhhhoooooo Now we can aford to pay for any "storage fees" should we be so lucky biggrin.gif

Hope you all had a great weekend
X
provencein3
Hi X

I actually think taking the BCP is worse than the needles.

Good news and looking forward to your updates.

rgds
xfactor
Update.............
ED starts Puregon tomorrow night & I start Estradiol in the morning !! I can't belive we are on our way biggrin.gif

Hope you are all well
X
tracy66
Hi X, thats so exciting! Am keeping all my fingers and toes crossed for you. And thanks for the news on the price drop, that makes a huge difference!

I'm off to pick up my script for the BCP tomorrow...
Tracy
CeeBee
Hi Jacinta - although my friend lives in NZ, she is actually Australian and has a medicare card - luckily!

CeeBee
xfactor
NOTE TO ALL...................

Thaking 3 Estradiol tablets at once will make you feel sick !
LOL I have already worked out spreading them out over the day is best tongue.gif
xfactor
Ok,
I am sitting here waiting for ED 1st U/S Results, and it is making me crazy ! I did not sleep last night I first had a nightmare that she had one GIANT follie, then when I finally got back to sleep I had another one and she had 52 follies !
I thought she was going to die and I woke up crying sad.gif
I spoke to her first thing this morning but she said the U/S lady would not give her any numbers (she went to a different place to where I go) so I am just sitting here WAITING !

BBL
X
Little~Oggy
X tomorrow get hold of your nurse as they should be able to give at least ED what sort of follie numbers she has....get ED to tell you or premission for nurse to tell you.it's ridicolus they haven't told you.....after all if it was say low numbers they would need to be dicussing what you want to do.

Jacinta
xfactor
Thanks Jacinta,
I did call the nurse yesterday, although it took a lot to get any info out of her ! My Ed has given concent for me to have results, which make it even more anoying.
E2 was 644, and she said there were about 6 follies around 11,12,13 and some smaller ones that I don't know the size of sad.gif so another BT & U/S tomorrow.
E2 seems low to me, so I am starting to freak out a little.
X
xfactor
Ok I feel a little better today.....
ED E2 = 1500
9 x follies on each side all around 15 - 16.
another BT/U/S Saturday, pick up should be Mon or Tues
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Hope everyone is well, it's quiet in here sad.gif

X
tracy66
Hi X, you poor thing , you must be going crazy!
I am having similar problems finding out info. Its so hard because of patient doctor confidentiality when using an ED. I still dont know for sure whether my ED has the go ahead. She was able to call any time after tues to get her results. She called on wed and the doc was trying to call her back on mobile all day. She didnt answer her phone because it was coming up as a private number and she doesnt have a message bank! Dr did call me last night and asked if i'd like to proceed with fresh or frozen cycle. I am taking that as a sign that everythings Ok, surely he wouldnt ask about next steps if she wasnt suitable..? I said i didnt even have her results yet and he just said "i know but i cant tell you those." Apparently they were playing phone tag again all day again today so she still hasnt spoken to him. Whenever I've done a cycle I've always jumped to answer his private number calls whether i'm in meeting or whatever because i know he's hard to catch. Again, another difference when doing an ED cycle, they dont see it as important as you do!

Anyway, am guessing all is OK, Ed has 2nd counselling tomorrow (she missed appt last week), we have final group counselling next week and nurses interviews next week too. I'm already on pill so we should be able to start in just over 2 weeks.

CAN'T WAIT.

X best luck with those follie numbers. Hope they're lovely juicy eggs!

Cant wait to hear how you go, hang in there!

Tracy x


X you must have posted while i was typing. They are great numbers, glad you're feeling better!
tracy66
My ED finally got her results yesterday and everyting is fine for us to proceed! Phew!!

latest disaster is that when she went for her 2nd counselling yesterday the counsellor locked herself out of the clinic (after hours) and my ED had to rescue her and drive her home - without getting do do the counselling session. So now she has to go back again and do it on wednesday! So thats means next week we have her last counselling, both our nurses appts and our group counselling. I really hope there are no more hitches, this is getting to be ridiculous!

Dying to hear how its going X, whats the latest??

tracy
xfactor
Tracy,
Thats great news !, LOL about the lock out, I would have made her do the councelling in the car !!
Maybe because everything is going wrong now, it means the cycle will be smooth sailing ??
Everything is going well, thanks for asking.
ED had BT & U/S today and most of the follies are 19,18 but there are still some 12,14 ones so back again on Monday for another BT & U/S (poor girl will be hating me !) and the nurse said she is 90 % sure EPU will be Wednesday.
So now I just have to work out how to get DP out of the job he has on this week wacko.gif
Oh and my U/S and BT was all looking good, my lining is 7 so lets just hope it moves up not down.
Have a great Sunday
X
CeeBee
Hi everyone....

Wow X, that's all looking fantastic, I'm sure by Wed there will be many ripe juicy eggs.

Tracy, things are coming along for you too - good luck with it all.

My ED is still committed, but I am in the middle of trying to work out the logistics (she is in NZ remember). I am seeing FS on Monday so will get relevant info from him, and hoping to see the counsellor also to get the details from her again.

But my question to you guys is, with the first scan during the stimulation phase - ie at around day 9 when you check how many follies/what size etc.....when do you find out the date of that scan?? Is it at the very beginning when you have the nurses appointment before starting treatment or is it much later (ie when AF arrives after stopping the pill and just before starting the stims) - ie short notice. Trying to figure out a few things......if anyone could help me it would be much appreciated.

Thanks guys....CeeBee
Little~Oggy
Depends on the clinic and CB they can really only give you a EPU date after they have done scans to see follies. So this is at least the 1st scan into the stim part....sometimes they make you wait until 2nd scan in stim part before setting EPU date.
Your ED will be able to be montiored over there and fly here for EPU. Though she might want to come a couple of days early and have last scan here if she has an excessive amount of follies as a plane trip might be uncomfortable if she said had over 20 follies. You might aso need to look at the fact if she over responses she might need time for it to settle before flying home. However it could go the other way and have low follies devellopment and need no kid gloves.

Jacinta
tracy66
Thats sounds great X. Do you go along too for the scans or does your ED ring you to report after each one.?

Ceebee until they've done at least one blood test my clinic cant really tell you when the scans will be. Then dependng on results they are every second day or then even every day towards the end. I only get 36 hours notice before EPU although they can usually guess when it will be by around 3 days before.

my ED tried to get the counsellor to do the counselling in that car too but the counsellor was too stressed out and mY ED had to counsel her! At least she proved what a level headed young lady she is!

Tracy
xfactor
Well EPU Wednesday morning.....Yiiipppeeeee
So I have a BT this friday, and hopfully transfer Monday.

Tracy, I look after my ED kids when she has scans etc, and on the days that the nurses did not call me with results I called them (they must think I am a pain in the a*s). Not sure how it would work if we did not know each other so well, we have talked almost every day for about 6 years or more, and I think the nurses have picked up on that.. LOL

CeeBee, I would call your clinic and ask what they think the best way to go about it would be.

Hope everyone is well

X
tracy66
Thats great X, you must be so excited! Hope its a bumper harvest!

We had our nurses appt this morning, so we are getting excited too. We may even be able to start as early as 1 week away if my ED agrees.

Went through the accounts side today too and had another shock. Apart from the extensive costs we knew we'd have as ED doesnt have medicare or private health, we also found out that we will have to pay an extra $1500-$3000 for the FSH shots because the national pharamceuticals register wont cover her either. I am trying to find out from my accountant if we can claim any of her bills as my out of pocket medical expenses against my tax.

Incidentally the nurses said they will call me after every scan etc so i will be kept up to date with follie numbers etc
Tracy
provencein3
Can you not buy the pharmaceuticals in your name.

I was wondering at the cost and want to ring to find exactly what is what and why exactly the donor can't claim.
xfactor
Hey Tracy,
I would ask the clinic to bill it under your name !
Be back tomorrow with EPU results.

X
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