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18/09/2006, 06:44 PM
My 9 week old son is driving me crazy! We have been doing a wake, feed, sleep routine but it seems to have resulted in a baby that just wants to snack all the time(only around 100mls or so) Ie when he wakes up he then really wants food even if its only been a short hour - hour and a half nap. Since he sometimes falls immediately asleep after a feed the time between feeds is now so short, only 2 hours or so.
We attempt to settle him when he wakes but the screaming justs keeps escalating, yet once we give him food he immediately calms and falls asleep. I don't think its just that he is over tired as he sleeps well, around 1 1/2 - 2 hours but doesn't seem to be able to wake happily without having food.
Occasionally when he sleeps longer and its been 4 hours between feeds he will have a good amount 160 - 180mls but we don't seem to be able to get him to this long. It seems the only way to do this is to let him scream for 2 hours once he wakes until the time is reached and this just seems cruel.
Has anyone else had this experience? Any ideas greatly appreciated! This is driving me nuts!
18/09/2006, 07:49 PM
I also follow a feed/play/sleep model. I can't claim to be an expert, but I can add a few thoughts for you to consider. It sounds like your DS is sleeping well, so that's fantastic. I wonder if perhaps you need to extend his awake/play time. My DS is only a few weeks older so it is not long ago that he could only manage to stay awake for 1 hour max, including feed time. And yes, he woke screaming for food. I would always feed him immediately (he is a quick feeder so that would take about 10 mins)and then spend the next 50 mins trying to entertain him and keep him from grizzling. I would watch for tired signs and put him in bed when I saw them (usually about 1 hour awake time in total). Then I would aim for him to sleep for about 1.5-2hrs. Sometimes the gaps between feeds were 2.5 hrs - sometimes 3.5, I tried to use the routine as a guide of what I should do. Anyway, if your DS falls asleep during feeds, try waking him up for some 'play' time before you put him back down. I sometimes changed a nappy to wake DS up, or undressed him a little during the feed to keep him alert. Playtime for us included lying under the gymini, some tummy time, walking him around the garden, under a mobile, sing to him etc. You can also top and tail him to add to the nappy change time. If he is really struggling to stay awake, then 1 hour would be too long. Perhaps try to push things out in small increments, eg. 10mins more after each feed.
19/09/2006, 10:28 AM
Just a thought but your baby might not be wanting a feed but extra suckling time. Have you tried a dummy? Your baby might just want to suck not actually feed.
21/09/2006, 08:54 PM
Thanks both for your advice. We did try a dummy but our boy just keeps spitting it out and looking at us like 'what are you kidding, this isn't food' - its very cute but not the result we were after!
I've come to realise though that if bubs is happy and growing well, then I should be happy with that. He is thriving so I've decided not to care should he want to eat often.
22/09/2006, 02:03 PM
Could be that he's going through a growth spurt? Whenever I got to the end of a period where my bub was snacking and sleeping irregularly I noticed that he'd grown (he's now nearly 5 months). He then went back to eating/sleeping more normally after a few days - a week.
I'm breastfeeding so I'm not sure if it's the same but I've never been able to get my DS to go longer than 3.5 hours between feeds. I try to look at it from their perspective and say I wouldn't be happy either if I wasn't allowed a small snack between feeds too if I was hungry before main course - why should bubs be any different?
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