You all have no idea how much it all means to me what you have written.
WOW I'm surprised that it has taken this long to get a meeting,
I first complained to the hospital itself, who then wrote a letter back to me saying that i gave complate consent and didnt once say that i didnt want it!!
I called them and asked them what they consider the word "no" to mean? They said they couldnt help me any further and if i wanted to take it further i would have to complain to the department of health or something which i have done hence why this meeting is taking place
Who is going to be in the room when you have the meeting to discuss the situation?
Well i hadnt thought about it i thought i would waltz in there have a big yell and walk back out hopefully with both of them tripping over flat on their faces on the way out.
But maybe i should take my mum as she was in the room too. (she was sitting on the seat doing her "take 5" magazine)
This is what frustrates me even more is the fact that when i first arrived at the hospital they asked what pain releif i wanted as i was being induced and i said gas and an epi no peth, the midwife then turned around and said that gas does nothing and if i have an epi i would have to have a forceps delivery as i wouldnt be able to push the baby out. Now i looked at her and though what planet do you come from because i know of several people who could push their baby out without forceps. Anyway she then asked me about peth and i said straight out to her that i didnt want it because of the way it effects the baby. She then told me that i wouldnt be able to have an epi because they wont give you one unless you have had peth. i said i could live with that and i didnt want it.
BUT she DIDNT write it down on my notes.
The maternity coalition
what is this and how do i get in contact with them?
I am so angry at them, ha and this was only a small piece of my whole complaint.
Another was that after strict instructions under no circumstances was i to get an episiotomy, well they gave me one - and for no medical reason too!
In the reply to my complaint about this they said that my doc just wanted to end my pain and by giving me an episiotomy he was doing that!!
Well now why didnt you ask or even tell me you were going to give me one then? I thought maybe i just didnt notice but i asked my dp afterwards and he said he watched the whole thing down there and he never saw him do it and never once said anything to him about it!! ( and yes trust me i know i had one
Another was that 10 mins after the peth they asked me what i wanted to do?
I then cottoned on that she was asking if i wanted an Epi i said yeah i want an epidural, well this was at 3pm, so i was laying there thinking that the epi was coming when at 5:30pm i finally said look where is the epi she said its too late hes gone home and i swear to god if i was there again i would hit her.
Anyway my mum told me that she actually told the anethitist (spel?) to go home at 3:30pm - she was in the waiting room and saw her do it.
Oh dear i just dont know how i am going to go, i know i am going to get really upset but i dont know how i could stop that.
ETA: That i just realised how long this post actually is and i just wanted to say that if you got this far you are brilliant!!