Hi girls...

DH and I used anon DS from Denmark to conceive our 2 boys (one of which is still cooking! ) as DH has no swimmers at all due to undescended testes as a child.

We fully intend on telling them as everyone knows anyway so we don't want secrets and them to find out somewhere else.. anyway we want to sort of start telling them early (i know Cooper is only 1). So my question is, what did you say, when did you say it etc.. and has anyone got a copy of "Mommy did I grow in your tummy?" (american book)?

TIA

We haven't really spoken about this yet We're in a bit of a different situation to you though being a same sex couple. It's going to be obvious that he isn't biologically mine and my partner's child. We have always said we would be very open about it but haven't worked out the logistics yet. I haven't heard of the book you are speaking of either. Does it explain DS???
Cheers

bec... its goes into all that sort of stuff and its a kids book.. I am going to order it from America if I can't find it here... Maybe if i go to a book store they may get it for me.. must look into it.

MOMMY DID I GROW IN YOUR TUMMY?
Where Some Babies Come From
By Elaine Gardon and Kathy Clo – Published 1992


This book is written for children so that they might better understand and respect the increasingly different ways that families can grow and come to be. It explains, in simple language, various options such as in vitro fertilization, using egg or sperm donors, surrogacy, and adoption. Mommy, Did I Grow in our Tummy shows children the positive results of these options – a new baby in the family.

On a thread somewhere it was mentioned that a useful book is

Sometimes it takes three, which is specifically about donor cycles

sorry can't remember where I read that just remembered the title

Lxx

Have you seen these books??

http://www.xyandme.com/XYMe-Books.htm

We also used Danish Donor sperm

leisurly & KLJC thanks for that

Hey KLJC wouldn't it be funny if it was the same one....

LOL...it would, ours was from Cryos in Denmark, you can PM if you want the donor code if your curious.
We were lucky again to get a BFP from a FET just last week.

In readiness for our curious DD's questions, DP and I have made our own book about how she was made.. We toke photos at every stage and wrote in plain 'kid' language! Shes not yet at an age to unerdstand but loves the book because its full of phots of her Mums!!! Since, we have also given a copy to our 4yr old nephew and he totally understands!!! I love the simplicity of kids!!

jlydia.. we originally had an aussie donor and when we had use the three straws up we were asked if we wanted another aussie or an OS donor, we chose and OS donor (for no particular reason)..

All the DS my clinic has from Denmark is anon so now with the new rules they are unable to use it (such a shame, hopefully the rules change back!) so now they import from the USA as the can be contacted if wanted later.

Bubba's Mum.. thats a great idea! I should have done something like that, though I did do a journal for each of our attempts that I can give to the kids when they are older.

Hi Shango,

I have a beautiful book (still in a box - I really must unpack it) explaining the ICSI technique to children.

Found the one you were looking for on Amazon http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/096...3&link_code=as1

I think by the time our little guys get to school about 25% of the kids will be IVF/donor etc... so it probably won't be a big deal for them.

Love to Cooper and Baby Shango (phleezze can you call it ShangoBunni?????)
T xxxx

Hi Diva.. yes thats the book! Thanks for that

Now as for calling him shango, i don't think i could do it to the poor boy I think we'll stick with Dominic!

hugs to little Jake! Have a great 1st Christmas :biggrin:

Deb