My DD is 3.5yrs old and will wear pants happily, sit on the toilet but won't go. She will hold on all day. her behavior gets really bad and I put the nappy back on as I am worried that she will hurt herself by doing this ie: stretching her bladder.

Please help!!

Has she previously being going to the toilet and just started this? Maybe you could try some sort of reward system like a sticker chart. My DD, who is nearly 3.5yrs and has been toilet trained for over 12 months has suddenly started holding on a bit and is now having accidents. Mostly just leaking a bit, but still very annoying and disappointing. It will be interesting to see what other replies you get.

Del - DD has never done anything on the toilet,we have tried all sorts of rewards, stickers, etc... but nothing works.

Today she took her nappy off and put on pants and then spent the afternoon with her legs crossed. I try not to be on her case but ask occationally if she needs to go to the toliet the reply is always no.

Please somebody must have a suggestion or two!!

Wow Phillipa, that's some holding power. My DD wouldn't be having as many accidents if her bladder was as strong as your DD's. Not that that's any help to you. Have you tried giving her copious amounts of fluid to see if that 'forces' her to go? Will she wee if you put the nappy back on? Maybe a phone call to your local continence nurse might help.

My DD is doing the same thing! I've been putting her on the toilet, and she won't go. I don't know what to do... today I tried to bribe her with stickers, but to no avail. *sigh* tomorrow is a new day, all the best of luck to you!!

Thanks for the replies so far... Plse keep them coming!!!

Del - Yes,DD will wee when the nappy is back on and happly announce that she is doing it!

Stumbles - hope we get some replies to help us. It is so frustrating, I think with my DD it is all about control and when you think about it it is one of the only things that they can have control over you - just a thought.

Any advise Plse!! I am going insane

Stumbles: How is DD going, any success?

Del: what is a continence nurse?

Thanks for reading..

Hi, I'm sorry I don't have any advice (I wish I did!), perhaps speak to your CHN? My gut feeling is the less of a deal you make of it, the more likely she is to go. Or maybe if you know some other children who are tt, let her hang out with them so she can see what other little boys and girls do (maybe she'll want to be like them).

Good luck!!

Jessipip - We are giving her a bit of a break and will be tring again on Thursday. Maybe that's an option? Good luck!!

Hi All,

My DS is 2.5 and been doing wees and poos on the potty for the past 2 weeks now, we tried for ages on the toilet and he would just hold on and then have accidents or have runny poos all over the floor from so much water and not going for ages.

We completly stopped using the toilet, I brought a potty that cost me $50!! (I know!!) but its more life a seat and more comfortable for him to sit on for long periods. We set it up in the lounge room and just have it sitting there, we put on movies for him and read stories etc. Basically he was so nervous on the toilet that he wouldn't let himself relax enough to go, so he would hold and eventually started asking me to 'put nappy on'! It took a couple of months before he realxed on the potty (and alot of Wiggles and Thomas the Tank on the TV!!!) but in the last 2 weeks he has relaxed and is now doing wees and he is very excited and yesterday did his first poo!

He still wont sit on the toilet, but I figure we will worry about that when he is 100% confident on the potty, and we take the potty if we go to Nannas or friends etc or he wears PullUps.

We have started him taking the wees in the potty and tipping it in the toilet and we let him flush the toilet. Which he is enjoying. Baby steps!

Oh, I also brought him books on going to the potty and to the toilet, which he really likes to read, one has a button to push that sounds like a flushing toilet!

Good Luck, hope I have helped in any way!

Cheers,

Denise
DS - Bexley 7/8/04
EDD #2 - 11/7/2007

Phillipa - a continence nurse is one who specialises in bladder and bowel problems. Most local hospitals have one or in larger areas there are probably some that work privately.

Thanks for your Replies.

I think I will call the local hospital and see if I can get an appointment with a continence nurse. I have tried everything suggested previously and nothing has worked. I will try again in few weeks.

Thanks again.