DS is going on 7 weeks old and has been on varying amounts of formula top ups since birth. I sobbed at the hospital when told by a midwife I was starving him and he needed formula or would suffer. I was also refused any other form of non-teat forms of feeding except a nasal tube due to 'hospital regulations'. He has been diagnosed with a weak suck which caused poor attachment, the loss of half a nipple and the resulting use of nipple shields.
Since then every time I tried to fully BF he lost or failed to gain weight so I ended up topping up every feed on advice from the health nurse, paed, lactation consultant and even an ABA councillor (this was the clincher).
Now he is refusing the breast all together. I have tried calming him (and me) and trying again, letting him suck on a finger with a formula line and then attaching, letting him suck on a bottle then attaching and feeding while he's mostly asleep. If I'm lucky we get 5 minutes, most of the day is no go though. We try for between 15 and 30 minutes each feed depending how distressed we both are.
I realise most of the problem is my supply being compromised due to the top ups but I can't express worth a damn. 5 to 10 ml no matter if manual, pump, with a feed, after shower, when full, even the middle of the night.
I have tried fenugreek and domperidone and they have helped but not enough.
I failed with my first and am not quite ready to give up on this one, especially as he's my last chance to see what the joy is about (god that sounds selfish).
Can anybody give any advice on how to combat this, or any happy stories of getting back on track to help me out?
Feeling a little fragile here but am willing to lay it all out there if it means I can BF my son.
Thanks for reading.