I'd be saying no just on the fact its something you call your daughter, its a personal thing between you and her and now your MIL decides she wants in? no thanks!

Lazoodle I was thinking the same thing

Bu (pronounced boo) is an Indonesian word short for Ibu. Ibu is used for formality eg. for a teacher instead of miss mrs etc. Bu is affectionate/informal - aunty, mum, nana etc.

FIL wanted dd to call him by his first name, even though he is "Poppa" to his other grandchildren. Stoopid SIL who lives with FIL wanted to be called Noni, apparently every child she has met has called her this as it is far too hard to say Fiona and she didn't want to be called "Aunty" anything.

I said "sure, whatever you'd like", while thinking "not gonna happen". FIL is now grampa and SIL is Fi-Fi - pmsl.

Although it sounds slightly stupid, I'd do as she's asked. In my view, it would be a bit petty not to.

I called my grandmother Boo - it was one of those mispronunication things when I was about 18 months and it stuck! So I think it's a cute name, but that's cos it's incredibly special to me. I honestly don't think I'd get upset about what my Mum or MIL wanted to be called - it jsut so happens that MIL was already Nan and my Mum wanted to be Granny.

oh my sides hurt.

\I heart you, Camel Toe

I don't think it's that bad

My DD when she was born had

A Lola and a Pop (In laws)
A Lola and a Lolo (great in laws)
A Grandma and a Pop (great in laws)
A Granny and a Grumpy (Great grand parents)
A Nana and a Nopa (my parents)
and lol
A Nana and a Grandpa (great grand parents)

I think she got confused lol

Sorry, I haven't read all the replies but perhaps someone should remind this grandmother that consistency is a very important thing when raising children and she can't even get it right with her name!
I don't think it is an appropriate name but I would probably focus more on the constant changing than the actual choice of name.

Good luck!
Lorraine
Formerly Aribika

Forgot to add; MissDemeanor, My Dad is Grumpy now that everyone can say the "r" sound.

Whatever floats her boat really. Saying that my DD calls my dad Manny obviously because it rhymes with granny and he is a man duh!!!

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Why don't you just leave it up to your MIL and your daughter? I don't see why you'd want to get involved. It's much simpler to let them sort it out.

Agree with these! Not sure what the big deal is?


Kirsten

I just dont get what the big deal is with having to have different names for various grandparents.
My kids have 7 grandparents and when we refer to them it's Nanny P.... or Nanny L..... or Grandad H or Grandad J etc.
For crying out loud they are grandparents and proud!

and... just for the record..... if your DD somehow did come up with the name Boo or any other cutesy name on her own then that is a completely different story! But MIL requesting it.....

so the other women here don't have an issue with the fact this is your nickname for your daughter??

sorry i find that really rude she has chosen something so special between you and your little girl.

both my husband and I have personal nicks for the kids, for example my youngest is mr squeakypants or cheekychops and if my mother in law requested to have that as her nickname i'd think she was a bit odd and i'd find it rather rude.

My MIL has insisted on DD using her first name, instead of 'grandma' or any of those.

I think it is wierd, and so do the rest of her family - her kids and her sisters etc. At first they would all say 'go to grandma' etc, but she must have drummed it into them, cos noone does it now.

She said is it because her family don't stand on ceremony, and they don't call anyone 'aunty joan' etc either.

I never thought 'nana' etc was that ceremonial - more a term of affection, but anyway...

We started out on DH's side with Nana & Papa which was fine. My parents are Nanny & Poppy. We also had a Gamma (great grandma (Il's side) and a Ninni (parents side). So that was all good as no double up or name confusion.

Now MIL wants to be called Nani (said like Nanny) also but wants to spell it differently - like that makes a diiference to a 13 month old! LOL

I understand your problem and really what kind of a name is Boo. I would just keep saying 'hello; whatever her name use to be' and bub will then recognise and call her that when the time comes. At least thats what I am doing here!

My mil wanted us to use Mi Mi and Pop Pop. We stuck to our guns and only ever referred to them as Nana and Pop.

My DD calls (we call) my Mum and her partner Nanna and Pa (but often call Mum Nannoooo) and my Dad and his wife are Boppa and Nanna Pat.

My IL's she can call whatever she likes, as long as they never call us

I think it is the child's right to call them what they wish which no doubt will be a derivative from their grandparental name, but Boo is just ridiculous IMO - what does this teach the child about their relation exactly?

DS will know my parents as 'Nan' and 'Granddad' and DH's parents as 'Grandma' and 'Poppy' even though MIL insists on being called 'Gaga' which is a name that stuck when their eldest grand-daughter mispronounced it as a toddler. I can't stand it so in discussion with DS she is referred to as 'Grandma' and when the time comes he will call her what he wishes.

My aunt is affectionately known as 'Mum' by her two grandsons (who live overseas) and of course their mum is 'Mummy' so each (child) to their own.

My parents are much more sens(ETA????)ible of course.

It reminds me of American R+B songs

If you are stuck for ideas, maybe you could suggest what I used to call my grandparents when I was a little tacker - Dumpy (him) and Dummy (her)

My grandma decided she wanted her great-grandchildren to call her Bubba. No idea why - she just decided it one day and her oldest great grandchild was 15 at the time! Anyway we all thought it was a bit weird but went with it and now the whole family and half of her friends call her Bubba.

If it is a special name for your daughter than I think that's off that she wants to be called that name and wonder why? Is she trying to take this special name, that's not nice. Other than that reason, personally, it wouldn't matter to me what a grandma/pa wanted to be called, its their choice really. Same as I choose to have my kids call me 'Mummy' not my first name or mother etc

My MIL gets called "mumma" it takes all my strength to convince myself that DD (20 months) can't say G'ma rather than her replacing me for MIL as Mumma. (she calls me mummy now)MIL looks after her FT.
My parents are Bronna and G'pa

My own Gmother is Mama because the first cousin couldn't say G'ma and it stuck through the years. Mama hates it but that's her name.

I don't think it matters too much but I can tell you if Brooke starts calling MIL "Mummy" i will take serious action. Might even quit work!

I don't see what the problem is. I don't think it necessary to call grandparents traditional names. Why should you dictate what her name is?

We have a few Nans etc so we needed seperate names for our own sanity!

My dad ~ Poppy.
My Mum + hubby ~ Nan + Tony.
MIL + partner ~ Grammy + Ian. Grammy was chosen by MIL. I had no issue. DS tends to still use Nanny; but does know who Grammy is.
FiL + wife ~ Grumps + Paddy. Paddy is a NN that FIL has for his wife.
My grandparents ~ Nan + Pop.
DH's maternal grandparents ~ Nanny + Poppy. Poppy deceased.
DH's paternal grandparents ~ Nana + farna(sp?).

I don't get 'Boo' at all.

DS has named SIL 'Moo'. This came about as her name is Emily, which to my toddler is Em Moo Me, and eventually that was shortened to Moo.

does she know for sure that you call your DD 'boo' all the time as a nickname?

Honestly i think it should be the grandparents choice what they are called, not dictated to them.

I also think you're within your right to tell her you think its a silly name or that you'd prefer her not to as you use it all the time as a name for DD. But really when it comes down to it the final decision is up to 'boo'

My MIL has two primary school aged grandkids and they call her 'Goo' - she prefers it.

My youngest two will obviously call her Goo also.

Each to their own. It doesn't really bother me.

I honestly don't see the problem with a different kind of name. If it is something special between you and your DD then that changes it a bit I guess.

My best friends' children call their grandad Bo.
I have known many a grandparent by many a name, eg Oma, Nonny, Pippy, Sissy, Baba, Poepoe, etc.

My name is Boo to all my family and friends! it has been ever since i was a baby... My name is Belinda but my mum used to call me " belinda Boo" and as i grew up it got shortned to boo and Now I'm either known as belinda but to all my Nieces and nephews .. I'm Aunty Boo! But if you dont want your Mil to have that name then say something.

She might just want your child to say her name first and I guess Boo is an easy name to say! My Mil is granny and my mum is Ma.

I so agree

My parents are called Nan & Pop and the PIL were supposed to be Grandma & Grandpa but when MIL heard what I called my parents she decided that they would be Nanny & Poppy

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No name for 6 months? That is amazing - do you hardly ever see them? Had need to talk about them in general conversation.
My FIL told me in the hospital that his name was Poppy - he sends cards singed as Pop, but I and DS always refer to him as Poppy.

In my opinion they only get one chance to name themselves and then that is it.

MJ

I would let her call herself that.

After all little children's b's and p's can sound so similar.

Go for it. Call her Boo like she wants. Your kids will grow up and realise for themselves how stupid it is.

My Father's Mother insisted on being called Porty rather than Nan or Grandma. As adults my siblings and I all agree that this was a really stupid thing for her to call herself and she is now known as Warty.

Really no matter what they insist on being called they are still GRANDPARENTS and there is no stupid name in the world that will change that.

I haven't read all the replies

I think if it's going to be something different like that it should be the child deciding. Boo is pretty out there,lol

My mum is Nanny (not Nanna) My dad is Pocky. It was supposed to be Poppy but when my eldest was learning to talk he called him Pocky and it stuck with my kids, they all call him that, but his other grandkids call him Poppy.

Dh's mum and dad are Grandma and Grandpa. My Nanna (mums side) to them is Granan (for great nanna) and my Nanna (dads side) is Nanna ..... (surname) when referring to her and just Nanna when talking to her. My grandfather (mums side) was Grandad and my grandfather (dads side) was Pop

My parents are Grandma and Pa as that was what my oldest nephew called them. Similarly, DH's are/were Granny and Grandad as this is the most common address in Ireland for grandparents.
To address a name mentioned by a PP, Yaya (how it's pronounced ) is actually the Greek for Grandmother. Both my kids have besties who have Greek parents, so this is a commonly used word in our house.

Crazy Baby Boomers?

My MIL is Gaggy which was actually given to her by my DD. She couldn't say Granny and so 9 years later she is still Gaggy and now my DS also calls her that. She gets called Granny by her other grandson but ours just say Gaggy. She didn't like it at first but now she loves it.

my mum went through something similar when my 1st ds was born as i was only 18 ATT. she came up with all sorts of things - words from yiddish/polish/and a heap of countries i couldn't name, in the end we left it up to the kids, for a while it was "fram mah" as they couldn't get around the"g"
as long as it wasn't nanna or nanny etc - she wasn't old enough for that
so we have

Grandma L**** and horsey S**** partners's nickname is horse
grandma R*** and grandpa(now dec.)
Grandad and Poo-line (for a long time - evil partner of my dad)
great grandma and nanna(great great grandma)
just grandma around each individually.
STOP RAMBLING!!
anyway back to the point

does your MIL realise how ridiculous that would sound coming from a 4yo? or having to explain this name to all her friends or in public??
maybe as a pp said add granny etc in front - granny boo sounds a bit better then just boo - i'd remind her of letter slipups though she could end up as nanypoo!

strange.

My MIL refused to be called grandma and wanted Nanny. Trouble is my girls have 4 living nannys. A perverse side of my wanted to refer to her as grandma but the girls solved that problem. They now have an "old nanna" (my nan) a Nanna *surname* (MIL), a "Just nanna" (my mum) and a Grandma *surname* (DH's nan)

Mum and I actually had a chuckle about the "just nanna". When questioned, my now 4.5 yr old said it was because she is just nanny, nothing else (ie not old etc)

My mum kept being asked what she wanted to be called when my nephew was born so she jokingly said, "Bijoux". (Bee-szchoo)

Anyway, my SIL ran with it and that's what her son calls mum. I've called mum that from the start and that's all DD has heard her being called, but she chooses to call her "Bea-Bea".

The laughable thing is SIL is adimate that we reaffirm Bijoux. I'm quite happy for my DD to call her nan Bea bea if she wants. I think it's cute she came up with her own name.

Let your mum go with Boo. The kids will decide what to call her in good time.

We have Nana & Pop (my mum and dad), Granpa and Nanny C*** (my biological father and his partner), Grandma T**** (my step mother Dec.), Grandma (MIL), Old Nana & Pa (my grandparents)

Phew! That's a lot of grand parents for one kid!

still laughing imagining a granny asking to be called Mr Squeakypants

OP -I would say fair enough, run with it if she had said boo from the begining but all this chopping and changing is a bit strange....

Yeah it's weird but I do think it's up to her. I called my maternal g/mother "Myrt" (her name lol), my paternal g/mother "nan" and my paternal g/father "Dan" (who knows why, it wasn't his name LOL. I always thought it was until I was older though! I think he just wanted something that rhymed with nan?) I must say I'm relived my mum decided on nanna, as I like traditional grandparent sounding names for some reason. My dad is grandad, even though he didn't choose that. he wanted to be "Dan" too..who the hell knows what's going on with my family, they are odd. I just ignored it because i thoguht it was weird and called him grandad Which goes to show I'm a hypocrite in my advice in the first line of my post so I change my mind-call her whatever you want to your daughter, and the child will make the ultimate decision

This thread is hilarious.

We had an American exchange student when I was in high school and her grandparents were Greenma and Greenpaw. Spelt like that. Talk about Mouldy Oldies

Ignore her, problem solved, No matter what you do, your children will develop their own names for her. Consider it a non-problem and it will become one.

HMM>>> I wonder why she keeps changing what she wants to be called!
She definitley needs to pick name and then stick to it so that it's not confusing to the little ones!

My husband calls me boo,
It is a term of affection used a lot in America.
As PPs mentioned, you hear it a lot in R&B love songs.
Usually reserved for lovers not GRANDPARENTS !!
I have been told it stems from the word Beau (pronounced bow)

My MIl wanted to be Mama, and I put my foot down. Then she wanted to be Nanny, like my Mum and I thought well it's better than mama, now she has changed the spelling to Nannie

I think some MIL are just difficult because they can be.

Hm, see if my son's daughter put her foot down over what I was called I'd be thinking some DIL are just difficult because they can be.

I don't get the name thing on eb - nicknames, grandparents - why is it up to us to decide what people are called? We have naming rights when our children are born, after that, it's on for young and old.

There's enough real stuff going on in the world to worry about without creating dramas over a name.

My grandmother is Mama and we all loved it. My brother changed it from Grandma to Mama when he was little and it stuck. She is now Grandmama to the great grandkids.

I do think Boo is a bit weird, especially changing it now. Who knows what she will come up with in 12 months time.

We have in our family

Mama and Grandad- IL's
Mardie and Dennis- Mum and stepdad
Poppy and Jay- Dad and stepmum

Mama started because eldest granddaughter couldn't say Grandma so just said Mama and its stuck, it doesn't bother me at all.

It took my mother 18 months to decide what she wanted to be called, until I said if she can't make up her mind I would name her Granny. Now she is Mardie.

I would put my foot down about Boo TBH. We call our girls our 'little Boos". We call our girls Bella-Boo and Amelie-Moo, so Boo would be an absolute no-go! Just talk to her about it, and make it clear that Boo is out.