Oh and I forgot to tell you the most important thing - my brother and I kept my parents young, busy and focused. Without having us I think they may have stagnated.
Yep - i'm sure my kids keep me young!
I had twins when i was 37 and my dd when i was 40. Yep they are all in high school this year.
No i dont have as much energy as some people who are younger parents, but you know what? When i drive into town to pick up their kids along with mine from work or the movies i'm wondering......its more about what you do with the energy you have than how much you have. My dd gets mad at people who call me her grandmother, no matter how many times i tell her that i am old enough to be, she is upset with them on my account. She is an awesome person (not a teen till later this year); she is bringing me so much joy i feel sad thinking that she may not have been born if i thought about it (unplanned pg).
As for thinking old...............not going to happen here for a long while. I find that the younger teachers are the ones who are stuck on 'they need to be everything they can be RIGHT NOW' Whereas I and some of the older teachers are 'you know they have fascinating minds, and when they are ready to apply themselves to somethiing they think is important its going to be amazing'. I find a lot of the younger parents are very goal oriented. Whereas i think that part of being a teenager is socialising, finding whats important to you, trying things out, giving your mother a hard time
. Its fascinating what my kids tell me. Sometimes i wonder whether the others are actually telling their parents the same amount of information.
Two other things that pp's have talked about -
Parents who are getting their kids out there and are spending so much money on their education etc and cant go on holidays or retire. I introduced my kids the the concept 'HECS debt' particularly the kid who thought that he'd like to keep doing degrees until he came up with something interesting enough to spend time doing as a job!
I also took my kids youth hostelling 2 years ago to introduce them to cheap accomodation and having fun with other people, not needing to make your friends want to do the same things as you; find the people who want to do the same things, do it cheaply, then catch a form of public transport and do it all again.
This week we have found something great to work at together.
I'm 53! Doesnt mean my brain is fried, doesnt mean i'm too tired to do anything. I work part time and am planning on getting a few internet business opportunities going soon! In conjunction with the eldest two.
The other thing to consider is - if going on holidays and retiring is your major concern from 50-60 unless you are a millionaire then children prob wont fit in. But if your idea of life in your 50's and 60's is raising the rest of your family then do it because thats whats important to you. If i can do it on my own, then you could do it with your dh to support you. Ali