I sold my daughters pony as oh and i are seperating and thought it would be easier to sell the horses, but after the pony left my daughter has been distressed and so upset.
They have had her for one day and i asked nicely if we could buy her back and they said no.
Ive had everyone give me a hard time saying its my fault,i know. But i didnt know it would upset her so much. The people dont have any small kids,just teenagers. Am i out of line for even asking to buy her back?
Ive had a hard enough week with finding out oh has been cheating and under a lot of stress.

I don't think you are out of line by asking to buy it back, but you have to be prepared for them to say no and accept that.

Sorry that you are having such a rough time.

They don't have to sell it back to you obviously - can you offer them more money for their inconvenience? Perhaps try to appeal to them and be honest that you aren't thinking straight because of the marriage breakdown. Your poor DD though, I can't help but feel extremely sad for her that in this time of family turmoil and pain, her beloved pet was sold from under her. Did you sit down and really find out her thoughts beforehand? And she said that she didn't want the pony anymore?

You have to accept their response.

I think you do have to just accept their answer. If they have only had the pony for one day, perhap give your daughter more time to get over it. It's not unlike any loss of a pet, there will be a grieving stage. Give her some time and see how you go. I am assuming that the original reason that it was impractical to keep the pet is still a valid reason, so even though it has upset her, it is still impractical for you to kee pthe animal.

Once youve accepted payment (cheques cleared, etc) and the pony has delivered, the legal rights (ownership of the property, ie the horse) transfers to the purchaser. Sadly, the horse no longer belongs to you, so in the eyes of the law its not your pet and you cannot demand it back.

You can ask nicely to purchase the horse from them, but if the new owners are satisfied with the horse, they are under no obligation to sell it to you.

I'd suggest you might want to consult your solicitor before selling or disposing of any more of the family property - it will affect your ultimate settlement.

I think its no problem that you asked for it back. Same thing happened to us when we were kids. My dad sold our dog and my brother was devastated. My dad should have realised though - my brother used to sleep with the dog, sometimes eat dog food together with the dog and famously said "if the dog goes, I go!" Anyway, after many tears etc we went to get the dog back. They made me ask at the door and tried to provoke me to cry so the people would feel sorry for us. However, they said no, they loved Sparkey already.
It took a long time for my brother to get over it, but he eventually did. I'm sure your daughter will get over it too. Just be understanding of her feelings I guess. Take it easy and don't be to hard on yourself, these things happen.

Oh your Poor Daughter!


All you can do is ask the new owners. Now you have done that and they have said no you have to accept that and move on.

Can you express to the new owners that if anything ever happened that you want first option of getting the pony back?

You can ask for it back, but certainly I actually think it is pretty poor form.

Horses get bought and sold all the time. It is not like dogs and cats that rarely get sold

Children grow out of ponies, and they get sold or given to the next adoring child to love and care for and then the next.

I am not sure what sort of pony, whether it was a kids pony or a show pony or what, which I suppose will affect a lot as far as the people buying it.

My thoughts with your daughter. I cannot imagine if my parents had sold our ponies before we outgrew them etc. One of course was never sold and was sadly put down in 93 so when I was 28, 25 years after we bought him.

Give her time to get over it, it has only been one day.

Spikey of course raised a good point. I will also add to it after my sisters debacle of a divorce.

depending on what sort of pony ($15,000 pony or a $200 pony) these are assets of the family, and will need to be treated as such, unless you daughter is 18.

That.

Some buyers may show compassion, but none of them are required (legally) to re-sell you the pony. Do they have a child that they have bought it for? how would that child feel now? these are all things that you have to take into account.

My daughter will be 4 soon,i thought it would be easy and less stress at this time.
Its caused more problems than i thought. The new people only live down my street,they walked her home and ive accepted that they can say no but they have teenagers no small children and if it were me i would happily give her back.
If i knew this i wouldnt have sold her,everyone makes mistakes. I thought i was doing the right thing, but dont exactly have a clear head after finding out about my oh,what im going to do with 2 horses, where are my child and i going to live,its his house in his name and paid for by him so i have no where to go unless i stay with my mum for a while in her unit,i have no rental history and hardly any savings.
I just think after one day they wouldve given her back its not like they had time to get attached to her.
Im just so stressed out right now,and getting hassled by oh for selling her,because everythings all my fault. Even though i look after the horses,the dogs,the cat,the fish and his child.

Maybe just have a chat to them since they are close by and explain that you understand they don't want to sell her back but that DD is stressed and would they mind if she visited with the pony while it settles into it's new home. Maybe she could go down one afternoon a week and brush her or something, might not feel like such a hard loss if the neighbours would be willing for her to do it.

Good idea,i will send them an email first.
I hope they say its ok