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28/03/2012, 10:19 PM
I was just wondering what other people have experienced? When should I start opk's and checking for ovulation etc? I know everyone will be different but what have other people experienced?
29/03/2012, 07:06 AM
I OP I have just had the same thing happen. Sorry you are going through this. My midwife told me you can O as soon as 2 weeks after.
29/03/2012, 07:56 AM
hey wishing, if you don't mind me asking- was this your #1 or #2 bub?
29/03/2012, 08:24 AM
Oh sorry I didnt realise it was you V's Mummy
. I was on my iphone when I replied.. How are you going.. This is our #1 bub.. Been ttc for a long time and thought we FINALLY got it.. Oh well.. We kind of did but lost the poor little thing. hopefully it wont be long before we both have a sticky one
are you going to wait before TTC again? We're going to have the U/S and blood tests tomorrow to see how my body is going as I'm still spotting. If all looks good I'm not going to wait cus with my track record its going to take ages before we get a BFP again anyway.
29/03/2012, 01:11 PM
We're not waiting either. :-). I really really hope we both get BFP's nice and quick. This is #2 for us. We had numerous bumps TTC DD. imagine my surprise when we fell first go with #2! KNew it was to good to be true. Sigh!
29/03/2012, 01:35 PM
Ooh so your first little one took you a while?
I know how you feel. I was waiting to get past 12 weeks to even go to the shops and look at anything because it just felt so surreal after waiting so long.. Hopefully we'll both be in the next DIG together
There is hope though. My mum told me she was pregnant 6 weeks after her miscarriage. Although I dont think she had problems falling pregnant like I have with either my brother and myself.. We'll see...
29/03/2012, 03:41 PM
Not what you want to hear, but after I miscarried at 6 weeks a few years ago, it took my body a long time to get back on track. My cycles were up towards the 70 day mark and slowly started cycling back over the next 12 months so I don't think I was ovulation very regularly, if at all.
But I have heard that others have fallen pregnant the next month after their miscarriage. It all depends on how your body reacts.
Did you have a D&C or MC naturally? I often wonder if it makes a difference either way with how quickly your fertility returns as I MC'd naturally.
29/03/2012, 07:26 PM
Hi purple chicken! Thanks for sharing- I am going natural because it had already started when I had the scan to confirm so I just figured I would let it do it's thing since it was already doing it. I'll be having a scan next Thursday to make sure there is no tissue left. If there is, I will be getting a D & C. Hopefully it won't take to long for my cycle to get back to normal, but I'm glad to hear it isn't uncommon if it does do I won't worry to much if it takes a couple of months.
Wishing it only took 6 months, but we lost twins and 2 chemical pregnancies in that time. I'm sorry it is taking so long for you. That must be so hard. I don't know how you do it. I really really hope you get your BFP quickly this time. It must be so heart breaking to get pg after all that time and then lose the bub. I'm so sorry!
30/03/2012, 06:58 AM
V's mummy and Wishing2011, looks like I am joining you in this thread rather than Nov DIG. Had u/sound again yesterday. Should have been 8 weeks but, despite gestational sac and yolk growing a little since a fortnight ago still nothing in there - no foetal poles let alone anything with a heartbeat. GS only measured 12.4mm. So frustrating because if it measured 25mm and was empty then they could have categorically stated blighted ovum and organised a D&C straight away, but only 12.4mm so stuck knowing things aren't progressing anywhere like they should be, but unable to have any assistance to hurry this along so we can start again. HCG levels also tested - if they had dropped that would be the confirmation everything is over, but frustratingly they increased, but only from 1917 on 10 March to 5400 on 29 March. Certainly a galaxy away from doubling every 48 hours but because there was a rise they couldn't offer any conclusions. This constant limbo is awful I know things aren't right and can't do anything about it. Another u/sound on Monday - if it shows no progress over 3 days they'll admit me for D&C straight away. I can't work, I can't study (am in my final semester of a law degree and am miles behind due to the constant appointments and worry).
Also our first pregnancy and at 37 years old I just want to move ahead.
Sorry to hijack your thread V's mummy - am interested to follow up with how long it will take to ovulate after all this. We'll all be jumping ummm back in the saddle(!) together.
Hope you're both doing OK. I am sure I will get there once I have some sort of resolution to my current situation (and will try to keep sane btn now and Monday!!!)
30/03/2012, 11:30 AM
2puzzled I am so sorry!!! God this sucks big time! If I had to go to work right now, I don't think I would cope. Luckily I am home with my DD still and I feel so lucky for that. I also feel for both of you ladies as it is your first bub. I know losing a baby is terrible which ever number he/she is, but my DD distracts me and I can look at her and remember how lucky I am to even have one. I found it so much harder with our first losses as I was just waiting for a baby! ANY BABY! I am so so so sorry you have to go through this. At least we have each other for support at any rate. I am crossing all my fingers and toes that we have BFP's ASAP!
30/03/2012, 11:44 AM
Sorry for your loss
I used to ovulate around 2 weeks after my miscarriages.
Best of luck.
30/03/2012, 11:47 AM
Oh no. Iím so sorry that you are going through this too
I know what itís like being in limbo. I couldnt eat, I couldnt sleep. Iíd wake up early thinking I was in some kind of nightmare and I was scared to go to the bathroom to see more bleeding... I had to wait a whole week between ultrasounds but I had blood tests in between and they were only going up by the thousand. My GP was not happy with the slow rise but I have heard stranger things happen and turn out positive.. I really hope you donít have to go through what we are. And I totally understand how you feel... I hope it turns out good for you but if not we are here to listen and support you Vís Mummy
. Thank you
30/03/2012, 03:05 PM
Thanks so much V's mummy, Wishing and mrsnorthman (yummo to your signature!)
I am so tired of getting my hopes up, having another u/sound and then getting inconclusive news of minor progress. So debilitating. Yep going to bed really late and managing to get some sleep but once awake in the morning there is no going back to sleep, regardless of how early, because my brain starts galloping around all over the place. Popped into work this arvo just to do a few things and don't have to go back until Wed, thankfully. colleagues and boss looking after a few things for me.
head is spinning and spinning. I wish it was monday already.
keep well and thanks for your thoughts.
30/03/2012, 09:04 PM
Thinking of you. I was in your place one week ago. And I couldn't stop crying every time I thought about it. What helped was positive thinking though. To cope I had to hold onto some kind of hope until my scans. Try to keep yourself busy this weened and go easy on yourself
31/03/2012, 04:00 PM
Sorry you are going through this.
31/03/2012, 05:04 PM
Sorry to hear
I had a miscarriage last year at about 7 weeks, I had a break to have 1 period and then started trying again, we managed to get pregnant again on that cycle and I'm now 21 weeks.
I will keep my fingers crossed for you that you have a sticky very very soon
01/04/2012, 08:29 AM
congrats jujujulie - that's good news. I am hanging in here. tomorrow can't come fast enough.
01/04/2012, 09:12 PM
Crossing all fingers and toes for you 2puzzled.
01/04/2012, 10:09 PM
My fingers are crossed for you too
01/04/2012, 10:19 PM
thanks everyone. will let you know how things go tomorrow some time. husband insisting I head to bed but I don't think I can sleep!
all my pregnancy symptoms have gone (since Thursday night) so I am just hoping for resolution tomorrow. sad times. there's been many outbursts of tears. ugh.
sleep well everyone and thanks for your thoughts.
02/04/2012, 01:20 PM
Currently awaiting d&c in the day procedure unit. Sad, but relieved at knowing where we stand.
02/04/2012, 01:29 PM
I'm so so sorry
is there any reason why you are having a D&C and arent letting it happen naturally? Is it more so that you can move on or do the doctors think you need one?
02/04/2012, 02:46 PM
2puzzled I'm so sorry.
02/04/2012, 03:14 PM
egads - after waiting at hospital having fasted overnight from 7am until 2.30 they asked me to come back tomorrow morning - will save me from waiting and I can have a scheduled time.
decided for d&c because I have had no symptoms of the miscarriage actually occurring - no bleeding etc, just no progress. it has been constant hospital visits for the past 4.5 weeks. the hospital recommended it for expedience, and also because I have been fretting over this for at least 3 weeks - I just want to get it over with and move on.
02/04/2012, 03:24 PM
ooh in that case I would probably do the same thing.. you poor thing. Look after yourself. Cry if you need to and come in here anytime to vent.
02/04/2012, 05:19 PM
Jujujulie- forgot to reply to you! Thanks for sharing. We have also decided to wait one cycle now. It seems pretty common people getting pg straight after MC. Hoping that 2puzzled, wishing and myself all have the same luck and get our bfp's first try after. :-)
03/04/2012, 07:29 AM
Well yesterday my ob rang and asked me to come in early for my scan ( today instead of Thursday) because of Easter and if I have to have surgery they don't want to wait another week. My appointment is at 11am. Wish me luck! Surgery would be a real kick in the teeth. I'm pretty sure it's complete but I'm still nervous!
03/04/2012, 09:53 AM
oh good luck!! I'm sure you will be fine. Have you stopped bleeding yet?
I had mine on Friday last week and it was all good. Make sure you ask lots of questions. I know I did hehe..
03/04/2012, 02:49 PM
Hurray! At least one piece of good news. :-) No surgery needed. Wishing I've pretty much stopped bleeding completely only the tiniest bit of brown spotting. My Ob also said we can start trying again straight away, but we will probably wait this cycle out and start trying again next cycle. I have an appointment with an awesome naturopath via Skype tomorrow. They helped me with my pregnancy with Violet. First month on their herbs and bam! Sticky Baby! FX it works again this time.
03/04/2012, 06:23 PM
v's mummy that's great news. had my D&C today and am a bit sore and cramp but doing OK. a bit teary at unexpected moments, like when husband gives me a kiss or something, and a wave of sadness comes over me. staff at RPA over all are so very good - lovely people, who made things as easy as they could.
best of luck to all of us - hopefully we can all be in a DIG again in a couple of months.
03/04/2012, 07:40 PM
yay that's great news
I've heard naturopath's work wonders. Is your naturopath in Sydney?? I wouldnt mind trying one out 2puzzled
your feelings are totally normal. I'm glad your D&C went well and the staff were lovely
It would be great to be in the DIG together in the next few months.. fingers crossed
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