I was 11 1/2 weeks pregnant with baby #4 and very sadly it ended yesterday in a m/c. we are devistated and confused as too why, i know we or no one is too blame its just one of those cruel things. I also had a m/c last year it also ended at 10 1/2 weeks. If we we re too go on and try for another in time, does it mean that I will need special testing after having two m/c now or not?

Oh hunny.

I am so sorry to hear this.

Technically, recurrent pregnancy loss is counted as 3 MCs in a row (excluding ectopics). I ended up getting investigated after my second non ectopic MC because of my age and desperation to have our first child. Perhaps see your GP and get a referral to discuss what to do next?

Take care and I hope we can help you on these forums.

PCM xxx

Hi OP - so sorry to hear about your miscarriages. They are absolutely devastating. It is a general rule that testing is done after a third miscarriage - so hard I know, to go on knowing that you may miscarry again and will have no idea if or why. I have had 3 miscarriages in a row so do know the heartache of waiting and wondering without any answers.

Best of luck in your decision on whether to try again or not. Be kind to yourself and let yourself grieve the loss of your babies.

Hi, Thanks PCM for youre thoughts and kind words, its very unfair that these things happen to us. I am lucky to be blessed with 3 beautiful happy children though. I am also an older mother, so I do understand it does carry abit more risk of m/c as my doctor has also pointed out. I will be seeing my doctor on Monday so will discuss with her if I can have any testing or not to try and rule things out. As we would really like to have one more.

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Hi OP,

So sorry you've had to go through this again... it's just not fair, is it?!?!

FWIW, my OB starts testing after 2 miscarriages - so you certainly can start getting some tests done, it's just down to the doctor you have. If you want some investigations, then get them done - so keep looking until you find a doctor to listen to you!

In the mean time, take care.

xoxo

Thanks dizzy-anne for youre thoughts, yes they are devastating and to have no answers make it very difficult. I think the fetus wasnt actually the size of 11 weeks like it should have been - they thought, it was more like 6 or 7 weeks developed. So sorry to hear that you had 3 miscarriages in a row, that must have been a very difficult time, i hope that you are able to get some answers.

Thankyou yes Ill take care, and Im sure in time we ll come to the decision of whether to try again or not.

Mythreebeautifulboys, I think we were in the due in October group together. So sorry you have had to post here again. I know the protocol is three in a row, but considering you almost go to three months I would be requesting further testing. I have had three miscarriages, but none over 9 weeks and they were not consecutive. Sill hard though especially when I stupidly checked the due in group today and saw all those beautiful scans why do we torture ourselves? I had a d&c on the 6th march , so I am hoping to get AF this week or early next. Hope you are able to get some answers and have a happy healthy bub next time round.

Thanks BJBubbles for youre kind words and thoughts.

Thanks kimliz, so sorry to hear of youre miscarriage too, it so unfair especially when there are no real answers. Best wishes to you TTC and hope that you end up with a beautiful healthy baby before too long.

I had a very scarey experience the night before last. I was fine all day and then in the evening the bleeding started again. We rushed in to hospital to emergency and they saw me right away. The doctor was very worried as the bleeding and clots wasnt stopping. I ended up having to have an emergency d & c and a blood transfusion. So it has left me feeling both emotionally and physically drained and exhausted.

I had a chat to the doctor before being released from hospital, he checked that I was stable and all was ok. Then I mentioned to him that this is my second m/c and is there any testing that can be carried out to determine if there is a problem. He said that testing isnt usually done until after 3 consecutive m/c and even then they dont always find a reason, it can be quite expensive and disheartening not to find anything wrong.

I feel though that I would like to have some investigation done as this is my 2nd now, and it appears that each time the fetus is under developed for its age, about 7-8 weeks even though I m/c at 10 -11 weeks. I will give it some time a perhaps get an opinion from another doctor.

my3beautifulboys - I'm so sorry to hear about what your m/c, and the additional stress of having to rush back into hospital.

I'm not sure I can add much except love and hugs - we've just experienced our second m/c in four months. We were six weeks along this time. FWIW, I've pushed my GP to get me some blood tests - normally they would wait for three m/c, but she's being lovely and doing what she can.

Rest up and take care of yourself,
Clare
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I'm sorry for your loss

As you can see from my sig, I've had a pretty rough 10months with recurrent m/c. I ended up having some blood tests done after my 3rd (? only 2nd) and then with the most recent one we went down the hysteroscopy, laparoscopy etc route. Mine have been alot earlier though. I am still waiting for my hcg to go back to zero (seems to take a few months for me) and then we will try again, although I'm not sure I can take too many more.

Like me, you already have kids (although you have a couple more than me!), so that does make many of the medical causes of recurrant miscarriage less likely - if that is any reassurance.

Even if you do manage to convince a GP for a referral, the OB may be reluctant to do much.

Its a horrible rollercoaster to be on. And I want to get off.

mrs boof - have you had karyotyping done? Your story sounds similar to mine - DH has a DD but I have had three early miscarriages (all approx 6 weeks) and it turns out DH has a chromosomal translocation - it is possible to have healthy children but increases the possibility of miscarriage.

I'm sorry you have been through this too PetaSiddle - It must be reassuring knowing the cause, but yet (and more so) incredibly difficult and heartbreaking at the same time.

I have had karyotyping done, but DH hasn't yet.

The laparoscopy showed a potential cause (although only a maybe) so we figured we would wait and get DH checked if we have a further m/c. I am happy enough with that, because if it is a translocation then there is nothing much we can do about it - except know that that is the cause and to expect further m/c until we win the gene lottery (I probably wouldn't consider PGD for translocation).

Thanks Claire for youre kind words, so sorry to hear that you had a recent miscarriage, it is such an emotional situation and you dont wish it on anyone. Sending you lots of love and hugs and hope that youre kind GP can hopefully give you some answers, take care.

Thanks mrsboof for thinking of me, its a terrible thing to experience especially when it is a recurrent miscarriage, as I had one 6 months ago. Im so sorry that youve had to go through it as well, its just not fair. I hope that the blood and other tests gave you some answers and were able to be put right? Take care and good luck in the future.

I am very lucky and blessed to have the 3 beautiful children I do have and i think that makes it more difficult to convince the doctors i need further testing, as I had no trouble whatsoever conceiving or carrying them.