I should be happy.

A lovely new home, in a nicer suburb, with lots more room to spread out.

No more train line out the back, lots more mod cons and yet I feel

I miss our old house, the way that we had it set up, being able to know from whichever room in the house I was in, what DS was up to and where he was. I even miss the noise of living on the train line, and having the bedrooms right next to the living area so I could hear DH at night watching Telly before he eventually decided to call it a night.

Instead this house seems deathly quiet, to walk from one end of the house to the other seems to take forever. I am having to constantly check to see where DS is as I can't hear him when I am at the other end of the house, and it all seems so big and open, not cosy and intimate like our old house.

Sigh. I thought the move would make us all happy, but now I am feeling homesick for my old house. Intellectually I know that we will settle in and it will feel like home, but at the moment it feels like we are living in some strangers house.

How long will this feeling last?

Oh Topsy, I have no advice, but hope you feel better and more settled in soon

I felt exactly the same as you a few months ago when we moved.

I think it is perfectly natural and the feeling will subside (it did for me after about 3 months). You get used to doing things in certain ways in a house and that has to alter in a different house and it throws you a bit.

As excited that we all seemed that we were moving to a bigger, newly renovated house with a great sized yard for the kids to play my 4 year old has had a few issues settling in (too big, too spooky, etc, etc) which made us all a bit unsettled and unhappy.

I'm sure it will start to feel like home soon enough.

I know how you feel. We moved into our new house in October last year and I still have days where I miss my old little house. They are becoming less and less but after walking from one end of the house to the other for the 50th time in a day I long for my small 3 bedder, 1 living area house.

I found getting my pictures up and displayed helped as it felt more like the old place and also I bought one new thing just for this house so I could look at it and say "yep that really suits that part of the house"

I hope that makes sense and helps a little.

That's one reason I'm putting off buying a new bigger place. I've settled in here the last 15 years, and even though it's too small and the areas' going to poo, I can't bring myself to leave.
I worry I'll regret a move (even though I know we need more room).
Go buy your new house something brand new, all of it's own like a new set of couch cushions, or fresh flowers to make you feel more at home.

Oh wow, I hope it get better for you soon.

We are in the middle of drawing up plans for a new 5 bedroom house. Everyone keeps telling us to 'make it bigger' but my gut says no. I don't want it to be so big it's impersonal, I just want it big enough so we can spread out a bit. Hard to get the balance right, I guess

You'll get there. When we finally moved in here, despite the fact I've been working on it for ages, it didn't actually feel like it was my home. It was odd.

But I'm more settled now. All I do is look around at all of the things I've got left to do, instead of looking around at all of the things I've got left to do and feeling weird and out of place as well.

Try not to overthink it. I think by being really aware of how uncomfortable you feel you in a way just reinforce it. Understand that yes you feel homesick, it's perfectly normal, feel it and try not to worry too much about it. Know that it'll pass and maybe to help things along a little, try to reinforce the things about it that may seem like negatives now, but are actually positives. The quiet and the space are definitely good things! And if the quiet really bothers you, fill the space with noise.

Good luck.

We moved a few months ago, and I felt exactly like you do. It took me about 6 weeks till the new house started to feel like home, but probably three whole months till we felt really settled in. The first week, I even broke down at the dinner table one night - had a sook because I desperately missed my old kitchen. Months on, and I love the house.

i have to agree with this, op. the first thing i do when we move is put up pictures, put out ornaments, all those familiar things that make it home. but yes, also look at things in a different light, ie you get to get your creative juices flowing by giving the new place a personality! do a new colour scheme you've always wanted to try but couldnt because other house was too small. ( if budget allows, of course.) i think it takes different time for everyone but you will get there. its just one of those things.