'A time of great uncertainty': this is what I want for my kids in 2020

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It's the start of a new decade and it feels like we're heading into a time of great uncertainty. 

Climate change, frightening global politics and we don't even know who'll be the next Bachelor, let alone who'll win his heart.

And while things are slowly changing – it's still an unequal world for women and with three girls of my own I worry for them.

I wish for them a future full of possibilities, financial freedom, good health, joy and equality. 

This year, I want to keep reminding them they're worthy of taking up space and it's their right to speak up for what they believe in.

This year I want my girls to make mistakes. And then I want them to make even more mistakes. And when they do, I want them to understand that making mistakes is a great thing because it means they're trying new things.

With each wrong step, they learn how to improve. Sitting still because you're afraid to fail doesn't achieve anything – it just keeps you from experiencing all the world has to offer.   

I want my girls to listen very closely to the people around them and learn from them. I want them to recognise the differences between people and embrace them.

Taking time to really hear people and learn empathy is vital in this ever-increasing angry, intolerant world we live in. Everyone's fighting for their own selfish needs and forgetting that we're part of a community. It's important to look out for each other. 

And when they've really listened to others, I want them to be brave enough to question the opinions they don't agree with. I want them to take the time to research the world around them and stand up for what they believe in.

I want them to inspire those around them to also use their voices for change, if that's what they want. Just because they're kids doesn't mean they're not entitled to push for change.


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I want them to love and be loved. I want them to love those around them, their friends, their family, their pet, their favourite subjects at school, their sports, their interests.

I want them to care and embrace the world around them with excitement and joy. Life is an amazing gift and I want them to live it to the full. 

I want them to also love themselves. That can be a hard thing for some people, but I want them to know how amazing, unique and fantastic they are, because they are truly special people.

And I want them to have fun. Be kids. Laugh. Do ridiculous things. Share crazy moments with their friends. I want them to roll down hills, chase the dog, swim in the ocean, eat ice creams, text their mates, go to the movies and climb trees. Embrace life and all that comes with it.

I want them to know they're not alone and if they need anything to always come to me for help. That's it good to talk about feelings and there's nothing shameful about asking for help. Together, as a family, we can deal with anything.

Mostly, I want them to be happy. I want them to smile a lot, because they're genuinely happy. I want to hear them giggling, singing and playing. I want to see their eyes twinkling. I want the world for them – that's I want. 


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