Five things I hate about tweens (and five things I love)

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Something happens when your child turn ten-years-old.

It's hard to explain, but there's a small shift away from you and as the years continue that distance widens as they become more independent.

Tweens are a special mix of joy and heartache all wrapped up in one sweaty, pimply, hormonal package.

From my own experience, while I love my tweens (I have two, with a third to come) with every fibre of my body, there are times I don't like them very much.

Here are five things I hate about tweens, followed by five things I love:

1)    Tweens smell bad, really bad

One day they smell all sweet like vanilla milkshakes and the next they smell like a locker room of men after playing four games of back-to-back football. And they don't want to take showers or change their socks.

2)    Tweens can be very mean

If you ever need an honest and blunt opinion about anything just ask a tween. Who am I kidding? You don't need to ask, they'll let you know that you look like a 'senior' in your new outfit within seconds of getting dressed.


3)    Tweens don't care about anything

If I had a dollar for every time my tweens said: "I don't care", I'd be a millionaire. I'm sure they'd care more if they knew they'd made me rich. They'd be savvy enough to ask me for a cut of the profits.

4)    Tweens roll their eyes a lot

There is so much eye rolling at my house. Mostly, it's in response to being asked to do chores, sometimes it's simply because I opened my mouth to say anything. And it goes into overdrive if I dare sing along to the radio in the car.

5)    Tweens hardly talk

Aside from 'no', 'I don't care' and eye rolling there doesn't seem to be much else in the form of communication. And when they're not doing all of those things they're asking for food, constantly.

On the flipside:

1)    Tweens are super funny.

My tweens make me laugh so much. Their quick and acerbic humour brings light to the darkest moments. They're two of the funniest people I've ever met.

2)    Tweens are intuitive.

You could be mistaken for thinking tweens only care about themself, but you're wrong. They've reached an age where they're aware of other people's emotions and are quick to lend a hand to help and give a big hug when needed most.

3)    Tweens are super loving

Don't be put off by their unwelcoming exterior - tweens give the best cuddles. They're snuggly and need to be given loads of positive reinforcement. Even though they think they know everything, they're still babies and they crave attention from their parents.

4)    Tweens challenge you

You'll never be stuck in your old ways if tweens have anything to do with it. They'll question your thinking, pick-you up on your outdated views and give you valid reasons to change. They act as a great moral compass and if you're open to it, can teach you so much about life.

5)    Tweens give me hope

These bright young people are our future leaders and I couldn't be prouder. The tweens in my home are kind, funny, smart, take no prisoners type of people and I can't wait to see what type of adults they become. Hopefully, the eye rolling would've stopped, but not the generous hugs and the laughter. Tweens really are awesome.