Instagram posts show the devastating realities of bullying

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*Warning this story contains distressing information about suicide.

Former Bachelor contestant Alex Nation has written a heartbreaking account on Instagram about her younger sister Angie's recent threat to commit suicide.

She shared an image of her sister smiling with the words:

"This is my sister Angie, she's 13 years old. She's bright, funny, kind and caring. She also has high-functioning Aspergers, anxiety and depression. She has been severely bullied for almost 3 years and the internal torment she goes through on a day to day basis is crippling."

She explained how her sister had spent much of her holidays away and on her return had decided to reconnect with friends online. Shortly after, she received a message from another girl her age which read: "You know what would be better for Zack and I, if you went and killed yourself RIP".

Two hours later Angie locked herself in her mum's room, threatening self-harm and phoned Lifeline. 

"She pleaded with Lifeline to help make it stop, expressing that she simply didn't want to be here anymore and she wanted to be with her dad (who passed away 4 years ago) – " I want to kill myself, I'm going to kill myself, please help"" she wrote.

Within minutes ambulance officers and police arrived to help her.

"People need to know and understand that their words can be the catalyst for someone like my sister," she wrote.

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"It has to stop, it must! Spread kindness and make a stand for zero bully tolerance."

 

This is my sister Angie, she's 13 years old. She's bright, funny, kind and caring. She goes to cadets and aspires to be in the army one day. She loves singing and dancing around the house, hanging out with her friends and watching her favourite people on YouTube. She also has high functioning Aspergers, anxiety and depression. She has been severely bullied for almost 3 years and the internal torment that she goes through on a day to day basis is crippling. Often, her anxiety is paralysing. I'm grateful that this post isn't something that a parent, loved one or friend would have to write if she had chosen to make the ultimate sacrifice by taking her own life last night. Angie had spent the school holidays with our grandparents on their farm. It's a loving, healing place and there, she felt safe. She came home two days ago and having barely been on social media for the last 5 weeks she thought she would connect with friends online. My heart was in pieces when I learnt what followed. Angelina has always been very open about her mental health issues. She's brave and bold and isn't afraid to discuss them. She received a message from a girl her age. The message read as this- "you know what would be better for Zack and I, if you went and killed yourself" Followed with "RIP". 2 hours later, Angie had locked herself in my mums room, threatening self harm and phoned Lifeline. She pleaded with lifeline to help make it stop, expressing that she simply didn't want to be here anymore and she wanted to be with her dad(he passed away 4 years ago). "I want to kill myself, I'm going to kill myself, please help". Within minutes an ambulance and police officers were at my Mums house. This isn't the first time my sister has found herself in this dark place. A place where her thoughts are troubling, tormenting and deafening. People need to know and understand that their words can be the catalyst for someone like my sister. It infuriates me and saddens me that with tragedies such as Dolly's and having friends who have lost loved ones to suicide that this is still going on! It has to stop, it must! Spread kindness and make a stand for zero bully tolerance. LIFELINE: 13 11 14

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Mum of four and blogger behind My Tribe of Six, Stevie Niki has also opened up on Instagram about how bullying has impacted her family and it's hit a nerve with parents everywhere.

"I want to pretend like today was a good day, I want to say something positive and inspiring… but I can't, not today," she wrote.

"I sat with my daughter after school and we both cried.

"My heart aches for all her pain and sadness."

She explained that her little girl's "spark" had gone.

"Today she broke down because of the relentless bullying she experienced in the last 6 months after we moved and changed schools. Questioned me as to why she doesn't have friends and that she's not good enough," she said.

Although her little girl had found a friend to play with she was still struggling to repair the damage that had been done.

"She doesn't fit into a box and I don't want her to either," she said.

"I don't know what to do. I don't know what the answer is.

"So talk to your kids, teach them kindness and inclusiveness – because no mum and no child should have to sit through this and feel what we feel."

 

I want to pretend like today was a good day, i want to say something positive and inspiring.. but i cant, not today. I sat with my daughter after school and we both cried. My heart aches for all her pain and sadness. Most people dont see what i see, they see a loud kid, a silly kid, a happy kid, a kid that wont sit still and a sometimes defiant kid. A child with a mind that wanders, a spirit that roams free and a heart that has a wild spark. Some may even see a "naughty" kid. The truth is, all she is, is a kid (my kid) just as special as yours or anyone elses. And the kid i see at home is a kid that hurts, shes changed alot in the last few months and challenged me even more. her spark has dulled and glow has gotten darker. We have high highs and low lows. I asked her today where she has gone? And we cried. I want my happy girl back, the one who lights up the room and radiates vibes i wish i could create. My nice girl who loves her mama and her siblings, my kind girl. Today she broke down because of the relentless bullying she experienced the last 6 months after we moved and changed schools. Questioned me as to why she doesnt have friends and that shes not good enough. Today she had a good day at school, she played with a kid and had fun. But this is what its like, it doesnt matter if its a good day when the pains still there and the wounds are still raw. The damage has been done and its not yet repaired - will it ever? I hope so. Maybe we should have never sold the home we brought them home from the hospital to and changed their schools from their first. Maybe we shouldn't have relocated. She doesnt fit into a box and i dont want her to either... Raising kids was never going to be easy, but it shouldnt be this kind of hard. I dont know what to do. I dont know what the answer is. It's day one back and it was a good but im already questioning the schooling system and her place in it. This year i will not allow the system or any one else's child to defeat her like they did last year. So talk to your kids, teach them kindness and inclusiveness - because no mum and no child should have to sit through this and feel what we feel.

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Niki told Scary Mommy that teaching your kids that kindness starts early was important.

"Children are not born knowing how to discriminate, so the focus should be on maintaining their innocence," she said.

"We should question ourselves, why are our children behaving this way and where did they learn it.

"If we are practicing kindness and inclusion, our children should be too."

If you or someone you know needs help you can call Lifeline on 131 114.