No matter how many times you ask me, I'm not going to give my son a sibling

Photo: SHUTTERSTOCK
Photo: SHUTTERSTOCK 

After more conversations that I can count, my husband and I are decided: we're not having any more children.

We have one son, a kind and goofy almost 4-year-old who loves The Beatles almost as much as he loves playing with his Dad.

We adore our son and love being his parents, but we came to realise that, for a variety of reasons, we're OK with having only one kid.

Of course, every family is different, and I support any mum who chooses what's best for her family. But for those of you wondering, here's why my family decided that we're one and done.

A big family was never our dream

Some people have a vision of what they want their life to look like. From sprawling houses in their dream city to their ideal job and number of kids. Me, not so much.

In a general sense, I always knew I wanted to have a child, but I've never had a particular desire for a large brood. My husband felt the same way. Though we have different backgrounds (he comes from a large family and I'm an only child), neither of us feels like our life will be incomplete without more children.

Our tripod is a lot of fun

We're very happy with just the three of us. My son enjoys our threesome, often comparing us to characters he sees in children's books and on TV.

To him, we're like the three musketeers; to me, we're able to live a nearly stress-free lifestyle. We outnumber him, making it easier to parent and be wholly present because our resources aren't split between multiple siblings.

I've also been able to do things with him that I wouldn't have been able to do otherwise. I took two years off to be a stay-at-home mum, bringing him to parks, museums, playdates, and even train adventures. Plus, we can afford one kid, but I honestly don't know what we would do if we had a second.

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With daycare in my area costing around $2,000 a month, we would go into debt just trying to provide basic childcare. With only one, we're lucky enough to not have to worry.

Multiple children can be stressful

I love my son and his sweet face, but when he decides that he doesn't want the dinner he just begged me for, my head feels like it's going to explode. With only one child, I'm able to be the kind of parent I want to be — one who is patient, child-centric, and fun — when he has his outbursts.

Because I'm not stressed out, I'm able to resist his demands and battles. Plus, I'm better able to lead with love and humour and defuse the situation.

My son doesn't need a sibling to be happy

Yes, many people love their siblings and I think that's wonderful. My husband is one of them; he adores his sisters, but he and I both agree that having siblings doesn't make someone any more or less happy.

The myth that only children are selfish, spoiled, and unhappy is just that — a myth. My son is being raised to be a kind and considerate person who happily shares. We don't need a second child to teach him good behaviour.

This story originally appeared on POPSUGAR Australia, read it here.