The 10 things this grieving dad wants parents to know

Hughie was three-years-old when he died.
Hughie was three-years-old when he died. 

It's so easy to get caught up in the day-to-day, rushing between school pick ups and work and extra curricular activities. 

Sometimes I forget to stop and soak up the deliciousness that is my three wonderful children. My teenage daughter's wry wit, my 7-year-old son's adventurous spirit, my 5-year-old daughter's free-flowing affection. Sometimes I'm just too busy to notice all that.

But a post from a grieving dad who lost his son to a rare brain condition has brought me back to the present, and captured the hearts of thousands on Facebook.

Richard Pringle marked the one year anniversary of when he lost his son Hughie by sharing a list of 10 things he's learned as a parent. It's a reminder of what really matters from someone who has been there and then lost it.

"You can never ever kiss and love too much," wrote Richard, in the first reminder of his list.

"You always have time," he shared in another. "Stop what you're doing and play, even if it's just for a minute. Nothing's that important that it can't wait."

Richard's list of 10 reminders is simple, and yet most of us could do with a gentle nudge from time to time. Richard hopes his loss can help remind other parents just how lucky they are.

He told the Mirror Online that Hughie was three when he died, and that his death was sudden.


"He had a brain condition but was doing so well," Richard said. "There was only a 5 per cent chance of a bleed but unfortunately that 5 per cent chance happened last year and he didn't survive."

So now Richard wants us to learn from his loss, saying it's not the money you spend on your children that matters, but the time.

"What you do matters," he wrote. "Jump in puddles, go for walks. Swim in the sea, build a camp and have fun. That's all they want. I can't remember what we bought Hughie I can only remember what we did."

Richard, who has two other children, has immortalised his son Hughie by reminding parents all over the world to be more present with their children and to create memories with them – something he did with Hughie.

"He was soft, gentle, caring and so lovable," Richard told the Mirror Online.

"He made the boring things fun. He made everything fun. In three short years he left us with a lifetime of the most incredible memories."