Why this family photo is not what it appears to be

Love What Matters - Victoria Baldwin
Love What Matters - Victoria Baldwin  

When this couple decided to separate, they vowed to carry on an important tradition: their annual family photo. The first two images in this collage were taken while they were still a couple, and the bottom two were taken after they split.

Mum Victoria shared the image on the Love What Matters Facebook page.

"We are not in love, we don't always agree, we're not best friends, sometimes we don't even like one another," Victoria wrote in the caption. "But you know what we are? We are forever connected because of our beautiful, smart, kind, compassionate, funny son."

Both parents have worked hard to show each other respect and support their individual roles in their son's life.

"Neither one of us are any more important to the life of our son. We BOTH need to be there, we BOTH deserve quality time and quality memories with him," she wrote. "Neither of us blame one another for the direction our relationship took. We do not place blame on one another, and we certainly don't place blame in the presence of our son."

Victoria says she and her ex Adam are far from perfect, but what distinguishes them from many other exes is that they put their son first when they decided to divorce. They don't place blame on one another, and they certainly don't do it in front of their son.

"So yes, we still have a family portrait taken, and I still pay good money to have the images printed, framed, and placed in our son's bedroom," wrote Victoria. "He may not grow up with parents who live in the same house... but he will grow up to see respect, kindness, empathy, compassion, perseverance, flexibility, and even sacrifice being modelled by both of his parents and he will know it is possible to fall out of love but never fall apart."

Some parents commented on the image that the child might find it confusing, or that it might encourage him to hope his parents might get back together, but most saw it as an act of love for their child.

Victoria commented and said she and Adam have a healthy bond, and that her son Bruce is very happy and healthy.