‘I booked myself a weeklong holiday and informed my family that I will be going alone’

The exhausted mum was frustrated and needed a break.
The exhausted mum was frustrated and needed a break. Photo: Getty Images/iStockphoto

Being a stay at home mum is a tough job, and one mother, sick of no one helping her at home, decided she needed to get away – on her own.

Explaining in a Reddit post, the mum-of-four said she gave up her career as a nurse to be a stay-at-home-mum while her husband worked as a doctor, and confessed it doesn't always make her happy.

"I can't say I like it but I'm able to help my kids with distance learning and I'm fully in charge of our home," she said."Everyone in our family has responsibilities at home.

"It's nothing extreme but I expect everyone to chip in as I'm not the only one living in the house," she explained, saying despite delegating some chores, she still does most of the work.

"I take on probably about 80% of the work including all of the deep cleaning, cooking, meal planning, errands, and financial planning," the exasperated mum said. "Well, getting anyone to actually do anything is a completely different story so I usually end up having to do everyone else's chores too."

"A few weeks ago, I finally broke," the exhausted mum admitted, saying she hasn't had a break since her six-year-old twins were born,and despite discussing the cleaning issue many times, nothing has changed.

Her family are giving her the silent treatment after she told them her plan.

Her family are giving her the silent treatment after she told them her plan. Photo: Getty Images

Telling her family she was done "begging for help," the woman announced she was taking some time off.

"I booked myself a week long vacation to a secluded cabin  an hour away and informed my family that I will be going, alone, and would only be reachable in an emergency," she said.

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"I've been getting the silent treatment ever since I told them, and my husband is pissed," the worried mum said, admitting to Redditers she's worried she hasn't handled the situation very well.

Reddit users were sympathetic to her, assuring her there's nothing wrong with needing a break.

"Your family needs to understand that this isn't to spite them," one user wrote. "This is for the sake of your continued health. Make a habit of it. A weekend here and there, a week when it's possible."

"If it's normal for husbands to take things like fishing trips it should be normal for their wives to do," another pointed out. "I bet no one would protest if it was dad leaving."

"Mental and physical health are so important," they continued.  "They have two parents not one."