Mum kicks father-in-law out for 'sexualising' daughter's outfit

The mother was furious with the comments her father-in-law made.
The mother was furious with the comments her father-in-law made. Photo: Getty Images/iStockphoto

A mother has been praised by Reddit users for sticking up for her teenage daughter, after her grandfather repeatedly told her she was dressed inappropriately at her 16th birthday party.

In the Reddit post, the woman explained that due to social distancing restrictions, unfortunately they couldn't have the celebration they originally planned, opting instead for a smaller get together, with  both sets of grandparents, her boyfriend and best friend.

"My daughter wanted to wear the dress we picked out back in April (in hopes that things would've been normal by now) because it was really the only thing she could keep from her original plan," she wrote.  "It was just a dress, it was really nice, and I thought it was a decent length."

However when her husband's parents arrived, her father-in-law immediately made her daughter feel uncomfortable by saying, "don't you think that's a little short?" after seeing her dress.

"I looked at him and said that it was fine, and she looked beautiful," the mum explained.

"He shrugged his shoulders and said "I wouldn't have let [my husband's sister] wear that at [my daughter]'s age, but she wasn't girly so I guess I didn't have to worry about that" and then chuckled.

Noticing her daughter looked uncomfortable, the mum asked her to come to the kitchen and reassured her she looked fine.

"My husband asked his dad to stop, and things were going okay," the concerned mum wrote. 

His comments made the girl feel uncomfortable.

His comments made the girl feel uncomfortable. Photo: Getty Images/iStockphoto


When her daughter's boyfriend arrived, her father-in-law couldn't resist putting his two cents in again, telling her, "I really hope there's shorts under that dress" when she introduced her boyfriend.

"My daughter's face got really red, and I asked my FIL to stop or I'm going to ask him to leave, as he was making my daughter feel uncomfortable," she said.

"He replied with 'well that's just my opinion, I don't think it's appropriate to wear especially with boys around.'"

Deciding things were getting out of hand, the mum asked him to leave the party, resulting in both her in-laws leaving.

"My husband thinks I made a big deal out of nothing, and we've been inside arguing while my daughter is currently outside trying to enjoy herself," she explained.

"I feel like maybe what I did was unnecessary, but he was also making my daughter uncomfortable and the way he was speaking to her was not okay," she concluded the post, before asking other users what they thought of the matter.

Reddit users immediately jumped to the mother's defence, saying her father-in-law has no right to make her daughter feel uncomfortable and praising her for sticking up for her.

"I'm so sick of older men sexualising teenagers; it's not okay even if they're family," declared one user.

"It teaches women and girls to be afraid and ashamed of their bodies. I'm glad you're protecting your daughter's right to feel beautiful and safe in her own home."

"Thank you for sticking up for your daughter!" said another. "Young women need to be taught that men are responsible for their own actions and aren't driven to do horrible things by seeing women's skin/clothing."