I recently mentioned to an Uber driver that I was thinking of trying a whole-house day off from tech.
Then again, we couldn't escape reality: I had summoned him to my door via my smartphone, and there, on the dash, sat his smartphone, faithfully guiding us to our destination.
"Well," I said as I was getting out, "I think I'm going to try this idea of taking a break from screens."
At first he seemed impressed by my lofty goal. Then we started talking about our families - and our teen children - and the constant presence of screens, and all the stressors they bring with them. Taking a break sounded like a dream.
He looked at me across the back seat and chuckled.
"Good luck," he said.
Technology, and of course screens, are now present at virtually every moment of our lives, and it has become ever more difficult to untangle them from daily existence.
But, for all our glassy-eyed dependence on tech, the idea of opting out of it, at least temporarily, is catching on.
"I do feel a shift," says filmmaker and author Tiffany Shlain, whose book 24/6: The Power of Unplugging One Day a Week was published in September. "People are ready for something different."
Shlain, who advocates a weekly 24-hour, secular "tech shabbat" has been following that practice for a decade, and says that as the level of tech involvement has "gotten crazy" over that time, the idea of taking a break from it seems a lot less crazy.
Sonoma State University psychology professor Mary Gomes, who has been assigning four-day tech fasts to her students for the past 10 years, sees that same trend, even among her digitally native students.
"I'm getting more of a sense of enthusiasm from students," Gomes says. "They'll say things like, 'now I have an excuse to cut back.' I think there are a lot of pressures for students online, and so they are starting to feel overloaded by technology."
Shlain's tech shabbat practice came about at a time when she felt overloaded personally, after losing her father and giving birth to her second child in close succession. "We decided to try it, and it felt so good," she says. "I thought, 'This is what I need.'"
Though she is not a particularly religious person, she liked the notion of tying the habit of weekly tech breaks to the Jewish tradition of shabbat, a weekly day of rest and contemplation. "It's this thousand-year-old practice that has so much wisdom in it," she says. "It's about being present." And, she points out, a prescribed day of rest is inherent in many religious traditions.
Shlain and her family (including two adolescent daughters) put away phones and shut down computers on Friday evening, then host a dinner for family and friends. Saturday is a day of rest: no chores or homework, and no screens, including TV.
"To have a full day of no screens is the modern version of a day of rest in my mind," she says. "And it has been the most incredible practice of my life. It's one of the best things I have done as a person, and one of the best things I have done as a parent."
Her family doesn't reconnect to tech until Saturday evening, at which time Shlain says, "I'm really ready to get back online. So you get to appreciate technology in a whole new way."
One of the consequences of a tech fast for Gomes' students, she says, is increased awareness of that disconnect.
"They're used to being lost in their own world when they're out walking around," says Gomes, "listening to whatever they're listening to, and now suddenly they're looking around, listening to the sounds of birds, making eye contact with people. Most of the time they experience that as lovely and liberating, but one of the only negatives is that they start noticing how everyone else is glued to their phone."
Even after their tech break ends, Gomes says, students continue to reassess their tech use and, in some cases, reorder their priorities.
"Over four days, you get a chance to see what are the essentials for me - work responsibilities, keeping in touch with family - and what are the things I can do without. You get a sense of the things that are actually optional that it's so easy to fall into spending a lot of time on."
Both Shlain and Gomes have tips for starting a tech break, whether it's a four-day deep dive or a weekly event.
Recruit others to join in
If your tech break is not a family event, ask friends or a roommate to join in. Moral support is great, but good company is even better. "My students report that they'll play games in the evening, or have conversations, deep conversations they would never have had otherwise," Gomes says.
Make it a treat
The key to stoking enthusiasm for the break, Shlain says, is in presenting it properly - in fact, she doesn't call it a fast or detox, because those things sound negative.
"Don't start by saying, 'We're all going to give up our phones.' Start by having everyone write down a list of the things they're always wishing they had more time for."
This is a way of giving yourself time to do those things.
Do the prep work
Plan for things like emergency communication: Shlain suggests a landline phone, but you might also agree that one person will do limited checking to see if an important call has come in.
Prepare to participate in the things you've been wanting to do: gather reading material, recipes, maps or anything else you'll need that might live on your phone or computer.
Remember that boredom is real ... and that it's also OK.
"My younger daughter will sometimes say she's bored during our tech shabbats," says Shlain. "I say that's OK, boredom is when creativity happens."
If you end up not meeting your tech break's goals, that's OK too.
"People bring a lot of judgment to tech use, especially for young people," says Gomes. "If you find yourself slipping back into it, remember that habit is very powerful. Just try again."