For anyone who has gone through the toils and, eventually, the triumphs of toilet training, it can be a sigh of relief to know that even the most accomplished and glamorous among us have struggled as well.
That is exactly what Momspalining With Kristen Bell is all about, really, as Hollywood star gets very real about life with her two young daughters and all the bumps along the way.
On one of the most recent episode, Bell addressed the shaming that so many mothers feel these days, with more and more of our parenting lives being shared on the internet. From supermarket tantrums to school pickups, often the worst of our times are on full display of all the other mothers in the area.
Kristen also discussed the double standard that can often emerge with two children, saying that she thought toilet training wasn't nearly as difficult as everyone was making it out to be with her first child.
"My oldest daughter at 21 months, we merely suggested that she use the toilet in the other room and [she] never wore another diaper beyond that," Bell revealed on Momsplaining With Kristen Bell.
"We were lying in bed giggling about this, my husband and I, like, 'Why does everyone make a big deal out of this potty training? It's so easy. Just tell the kid to use the toilet.'"
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But it wasn't long before Bell's parenting skills were humbled by her second daughter, who didn't take to the loo as easily as her older sister.
"Currently, my youngest is five and a half, still in diapers," she shared.
Maya Rudolph, who was a guest on the episode, replied, "It's real relative, isn't it?"
"Yes," Bell admitted. "Because every kid is so different."
While Bell didn't explain how often her daughter wears nappies, or whether she is seeking help with the issue, experts say it is not unusual for children as old as 10 to not be fully night toilet trained.
According to the Royal Children's Hospital one in 10 children age six wet their bed, while one in 20 of those aged ten still have the same problem.