Mum slammed by husband for waxing five-year-old daughter's 'noticeable' monobrow

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When it comes to body hair dilemmas, most parents expect it won't arise until puberty and the subject of shaving inevitably arises.

But for one mum, she's had to face a difficult decision much earlier, sharing that her five-year-old daughter had asked her to wax her monobrow. 

Explaining that during the last year it hadn't been an issue due to COVID-19 lockdowns, now they were socialising again, other kids had begun to notice the 'thick, dark' and 'very noticeable' hair. 

"However this past summer her cousins came over to visit and many of them teased her for her unibrow. They'd call her countless names, and at just five my daughter already thinks she is ugly," the woman explained on Reddit.

"It breaks my heart because nobody (let alone a five-year-old) should think they are ugly. I reassure my daughter she is beautiful and not to listen to her cousins, but my daughter still believes she is ugly."

As the start of school approached, and fearing the bullying would extend to her new classmates, the mum made the decision to get the wax out - saying she removed the unibrow, but left the rest of her eyebrows untouched.

"My daughter was elated looking in the mirror and calling her self so pretty. It warmed my heart to see her so confident in herself, but I made sure to remind her she was beautiful both ways," she continued.

When her husband returned home, her daughter excitedly showed him her new look. However he didn't share in their joy. 

"He said it was horrible of me to be subjecting my five-year-old daughter to beauty standards. And that at such a young age i'm pushing it on her, instead of telling her she is beautiful the way she is. And no five year old should be waxing their eyebrows, and im pushing the mentality that she is only beautiful without her unibrow."

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While she agreed with his points, she said she was only trying to protect her daughter and didn't want her to grow up resenting her for refusing to remove it, and asked Reddit if she'd done the wrong thing. 

Most users sided with the concerned mum, agreeing she was trying to do the best for her daughter.

"Letting a kid suffer them daily for 'values sake' when you have an obvious solution is s---y parenting in my book. Especially when you as an adult use those solutions yourself," argued one. "Does Dad have a unibrow? If not, maybe draw one on and see how he handles the stares for a day. And then ask if that's something he wants his five year old to endure."

"I'm 35 and still am dealing with self-esteem issues from bullies in elementary and middle school. OP is NTA (not the a--hole) for helping her daughter avoid that feeling if shame and confusion," agreed another.

"I got called half-ape all through elementary. I would come home and cry for an hour daily. Mum offered to me that I could wax. I did. It helped my self-esteem. Now that I'm in my 20's I've just stopped caring. I have more important things to worry about. But I still think my mom did that right thing," shared another.

"There is no winning here for OP, she is villainised either way. However, her daughter will always remember this kindness and has the opportunity to develop in her social circle without immediate ridicule based on a very noticeable facial feature," a fourthchimed in.

However others agreed with her husband, saying she shouldn't have modified her daughter's appearance so young.

"YTA (you're the --hole). Unequivocally. Unmistakably. Wax your a---crack if thick black hairs bother you that much and leave your kid alone," argued one.

"Waxing a unibrow is an easy quick fix but what if your child had some other 'defect' that could lead to bullying (e.g. thin lips or a birth mark)? Would you get your five year old lip fillers? This is setting a dangerous precedent and might confuse your daughter in the future," agreed another.