Pink speaks about gender-neutral parenting

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Pink has told how she is raising daughter Willow in a "very label-less household" which does not focus on gender.

Speaking to Sunday People the superstar singer/songwriter shared a conversation she recently had with the six-year-old.

"Last week Willow told me she is going to marry an African woman," said Pink. "I was like, 'Great, can you teach me how to make African food?'

"And she's like, 'Sure Mama, and we are going to live with you while our house is getting ready.'"

Pink only had one concern: "Who is paying for this by the way?" she asked.

Pink is also mum to 11-month-old son Jameson, who will no doubt benefit from her open-minded approach as he grows up too.

She also commended a school she had seen for having gender-neutral toilets.

"The bathroom outside the kindergarten said, 'Gender Neutral – anybody', and it was a drawing of many different shapes," she said. "I took a picture of it and wrote, 'Progress'. I thought that was awesome. I love that kids are having this conversation."

Pink was widely lauded earlier this year when she made a moving speech at the VMAs praising musicians who had pushed gender boundaries throughout their careers, such as Michael Jackson, David Bowie, Freddie Mercury, Annie Lennox, Prince, Janis Joplin and Elton John.


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In the speech, she dedicated the award to Willow, and shared a conversation they had had recently.

"I was driving my daughter to school and she said to me, out of the blue, 'Mama?' I said, 'Yes, baby?' She said, 'I'm the ugliest girl I know.' And I said, 'Huh?' And she was like, 'Yeah, I look like a boy with long hair.'"

"And my brain went to Oh my god, you're six. Why? Where is this coming from? Who said this? Can I kick a six-year-old's ass, like what?"

Instead, Pink went home and made a PowerPoint presentation for her daughter, showing her a range of inspiring musicians who had refused to conform to gender stereotypes.

"But then I said, 'You know, I really wanna know why you feel this way about yourself.' And she said, 'Well I look like a boy,' and I said, 'Well what do you think I look like?' And she said, 'Well, you're beautiful.' And I was like, 'Well, thanks. But when people make fun of me, that's what they use. They say I look like a boy or I'm too masculine or I have too many opinions, my body is too strong.'

"And I said to her, 'Do you see me growing my hair?' She said, 'No, Mama.' I said, 'Do you see me changing my body?' 'No, Mama.' 'Do you see me changing the way I present myself to the world?' 'No, Mama.' 'Do you see me selling out arenas all over the world?' 'Yes, Mama.' 'Okay! So, baby girl. We don't change. We take the gravel and the shell and we make a pearl. And we help other people to change so they can see more kinds of beauty.'"