Controversial reason mum bans son's friend from sleepover birthday party

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Sometimes the humble birthday party can be a stressful experience. There's the guest list, food and games to organise - as well as the worry involved with looking after multiple very excited children.

One mother, whose son is celebrating his tenth birthday, decided on a superhero slumber party. Explaining they did something similar a few years ago and "everyone had a blast" the party kicked off at 3pm, with pizza, movies, popcorn and the kids designing superhero masks.

Although the kids had a great time and were generally well behaved, this time around the mum didn't want one of the boys, James, invited for a specific reason that had nothing to do with the child himself. 

"He came to the last two sleepover parties, and while well behaved, it was his parents who I felt were the problem," the party host explained in a Reddit post. "When we send out the invites, we tell the parents when the party is and what time to pick the kids up the next day.

"For the last two parties, James was always the last one to be picked up," she said. The mum explained that on her son's eighth birthday, parents were told to pick the kids up by 11am on the day after the sleepover - but James wasn't collected until 4pm, ruining the family's plans for the day.

"By 2.00pm I texted her again and let her know that she needs to pick up her son ASAP, that we were getting ready to leave in an hour and her son was not invited to come with us," the mum recalled.

When she still hadn't come to pick up James by 4pm, the angry woman left the mum a voicemail telling her if she doesn't come within 30 minutes she'll call the police to inform them that he was an abandoned child.

"She showed up within fifteen minutes to get him," she said. "She made a half-a--ed apology about how she was busy with errands and running her other children to their activities."

This incident not forgotten, and the family made the decision not the invite James to this year's sleepover. However, when his mother found out her son had been excluded she was angry.


"[I told her] her son was not invited because I was not sure if she would come get him in a timely manner and without disrupting our plans for the rest of the day," the mum wrote.

"I explained that any time her son is at my house, she is always late to pick him up and I was tired of catering to her schedule. She called me an uppity b--ch, and has since blocked me on social media and her phone."

Redditers were quick to let the mum she was not in the wrong, even though it was a shame James had to pay for his mother's mistakes.

"You gave her the honest reason based on experience. Instead of saying "You're right, I'm so sorry. I don't mean to have my child punished for my behaviour, so could you please give him/me another chance?" she responded with profanity and blocked you?" one person asked.

"This mum sucks (to put it mildly). And I feel sorry for her kid," another said. "She was using you for free daycare and doesn't care enough about her kid. It's weird how she was able to pick up her kid in 15 minutes once the threats got real."